Keenly Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 We texted pretty much all day yesterday. Good, equal conversation with questions and good topics flowing from both sides. (Pretty good debate on who would win in a fight, Sauron or Darth Vader) Anyway, today I am hesitant to text her because I don't want to bombard her. I am honestly just debating not sending her anything until she initiates contact, to at least show me she is interested in talking. Yay or Nay?
GLDheart Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 First, Sauron. All day. Second. Grow a pair and text her a reference from your prior conversation. Keep it funny/witty. Keep it light in nature. If she responds "who's this?", it's a test. Answer something like "Superman, here to kick both Sauron AND Darth Vader's butts." 1
april38 Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 You should definately text her. Maybe wait for much of the day to pass so you don't bombard her, but don't wait for her to contact you, it will only make her feel vulnerable, and she wants to feel pursued. So, give her a bit of time to think about you today, then either text or better yet - call her. Women feel that if you only text that you aren't really interested. If you're not ready to call yet, texting is still ok, but not for too long. You'll have to make the call at some point so she knows you're going after what you want. I remember my first phone call with the last guy I dated (fell in love with). We had hung out in a group when we met, and he got my number. The next day he texted me in the afternoon with "miss me?", and I texted back "YES", a few minutes later the phone rang, and we had a slightly akward convo, but soooo worth it! I was elated that he had called.
sid3 Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 don't play games OP... if you want to text, text away... Too late, his title asks "how to play this" he's doomed. I can sense the neediness already.
Author Keenly Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 Too late, his title asks "how to play this" he's doomed. I can sense the neediness already. I must be sooooo doomed. You have no idea what your talking about . Problem solved itself. She texted me like five seconds after I posted this thread .
sid3 Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 I must be sooooo doomed. You have no idea what your talking about . Problem solved itself. She texted me like five seconds after I posted this thread . You're correct, I have no idea what I'm talking about:)
Author Keenly Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 Of course I'd love to ask her out. She just lives as far as mathematically possible from me while still being in the same country. Otherwise I would just take her some where fin. Not so easy this time. I don't need dating advice, I just wanted to know If it would be interpreted as weird to have some random dude blow up your phone .
Author Keenly Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 So, why bother even chatting her up? On the 0.000025% chance that you actually meet this girl face-to-face? Since you will never meet, why even sweat what she thinks of you? Go for broke and text her a pic of your junk. I'm looking for some one I have more in common with, some one I can't connect with on a deeper level than what I have experienced. The distance doesn't really bother me. I have money so if it comes to it I can fly her out here, but that's a ways away. The girls in my area are a little.... Different than anything I'm looking for.
Author Keenly Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 What kind of distance are we talking about? And what is the girl scene like where you're at? LDRs are about the biggest pain in the ass that you can sign up for. If you want that kind of headache, you might as well go get some chick knocked up. Were talking east coast to west coast. The girls where I am st are stupid, selfish , superficial , and just big pains in the ass. I have done an LDR before and it was fine, no horror stories and I wasn't suffering or anything.
GLDheart Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Hey if you want that kind of thing, go for it. It's not for me though. Screw the thought of investing myself into a girl a million miles away when there are a zillion RIGHT HERE. In fact, forget that kind of advice I gave you earlier. You have self confidence issues that are causing you to see only the negative aspects of the people right there around you. Those girls are wonderful in thier own right. Stop labeling them and acting messed up to them because of your preconcieved B$. Treat them right, be a worthy man, and enjoy them for what they are... But hey, if you need to "warm up" your game with the safety of a "no risk" girl on the other side of the country... Do what you got to do.
sillyanswer Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Anyway, today I am hesitant to text her because I don't want to bombard her. I am honestly just debating not sending her anything until she initiates contact, to at least show me she is interested in talking. Yay or Nay? Don't be a pussy. Ask her out.
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