salem mark Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 If you want the back story you can check my older posts (same woman) I just got back after traveling to see my ex in New England for New Years. She emailed me after not talking for 2 years, she ended it. We have been skyping about everyday (she initiates), its been very sweet and romantic. She practically begged me to meet her in the new town she moved to last summer Before traveling she told me never stopped loving me and i was the best thing that ever happened to her. FYI, i've always been crazy for her. After a honeymoon period (fantastic!!)of 3 days, I drank to much on New Years Eve and acted tempermantal (i dont drink like this normally) I apologized the next day if I behaved badly. Honestly I was very excited about meeting her and seeing her again and was nervous/anxious. We were very intense together. Her behavior changed after that and was much cooler to me. When I got home she skyped and said she was disappointed in me(maybe she built up some fantasy of what it would be like and it was great for the first 3 days) She also said she didnt want a relationship right now but was glad i came. I said i didnt expect a relationship because of the distance (which is true). I basically agreed to what she said and said I hope we talk again soon. Then removed from Skype as contact. This past Saturday she called ( I was surprised I didnt think I would hear from again) She said this was (she was) stupid and wanted to let me know how much she cared about me. What do I do now?was , this is killing me, because she skyping and talking to me like a boyfriend for the past 2 months and then pulls the plug because of one bad night (new years) Should i ignore her again,? go NC
Jono85 Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 If you want the back story you can check my older posts (same woman) I just got back after traveling to see my ex in New England for New Years. She emailed me after not talking for 2 years, she ended it. We have been skyping about everyday (she initiates), its been very sweet and romantic. She practically begged me to meet her in the new town she moved to last summer Before traveling she told me never stopped loving me and i was the best thing that ever happened to her. FYI, i've always been crazy for her. After a honeymoon period (fantastic!!)of 3 days, I drank to much on New Years Eve and acted tempermantal (i dont drink like this normally) I apologized the next day if I behaved badly. Honestly I was very excited about meeting her and seeing her again and was nervous/anxious. We were very intense together. Her behavior changed after that and was much cooler to me. When I got home she skyped and said she was disappointed in me(maybe she built up some fantasy of what it would be like and it was great for the first 3 days) She also said she didnt want a relationship right now but was glad i came. I said i didnt expect a relationship because of the distance (which is true). I basically agreed to what she said and said I hope we talk again soon. Then removed from Skype as contact. This past Saturday she called ( I was surprised I didnt think I would hear from again) She said this was (she was) stupid and wanted to let me know how much she cared about me. What do I do now?was , this is killing me, because she skyping and talking to me like a boyfriend for the past 2 months and then pulls the plug because of one bad night (new years) Should i ignore her again,? go NC i don't really understand the confusion here. she's made it quite clear she doesn't want to be with you in a relationship. i think a big issue i keep seeing in the 2nd chance forum is dumpees just letting the dumper come back so easily and not making them work hard for it. "Before traveling she told me never stopped loving me and i was the best thing that ever happened to her." i'm sorry but are you f*cking kidding me?!? so she dumps you, and doesn't contact you for TWO YEARS...not 2 weeks or months, but 2 YEARS, and pulls the "i never stopped loving you" line?? did you really buy that? so while she's getting f*cked by other dudes and saying I Love Yous to other men, and just living up life without you for a full 2 years, she was really still loving you and thought you were the best thing that ever happened to her, yet...did not want you in her life?? lol cmon man. it wasn't new years, so don't beat yourself up over it. of course it's time for NC. next time she tries to weasle her way in your life just ignore her. 1
Author salem mark Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 wow that was tuff hearing that your right probably, was she just looking to get laid?
Jono85 Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 wow that was tuff hearing that your right probably, was she just looking to get laid? just figured you sound like you sort of need some tough love right now, and to snap out of it. and yes most likely, i was going to say that in my post, but you didn't mention anything about sex, so didn't go there. but most likely she's bored/lonely, maybe didn't have anyone for new years so you were a nice plug in whom she knew would be DTF and comfortable. i'm not necessarily correct here, just going off what i know from your OP. i think the only thing you can do though is go NC. next time she tries to come back into your life don't get so damn excited and just let her in like she didn't burn you in the past (twice now). in fact you probably just shouldn't let her back into your life again after this, period. but that's your call.
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