Why are white women dating black men?

[rys]

I got confused with this post.

 

(checking calendar...)

 

 

It's 2013! Why not?

[sillyanswer]

Is the issue you want to discuss "why are white women dating black men?" or, "why are white women dating thugs?"

 

Because "black men" does not = "thugs." Really.

 

I assumed the OP was dissembling and the issue was actually "why are lots of hot, sexy women not dating me?".

[stillafool]

I see lots of hot women dating thugs. I don't mean ugly women, I mean the sexy women. Is there a reason for this. Like I know white men like asians.

 

Are you calling all black men thugs?:sick:

[bodhesatva]

While I have already defended women's right to date whoever they want (And I will stick by that), I do think it's reasonable to say that of minorities, black men and asian women happen to fit our current cultural norms of what is "masculine" and what is "feminine" best.

 

There are cultures and times when obesity has been considered attractive, where tall men don't have an advantage over shorter men, where small boobs have been preferred to larger boobs, and so forth.

 

But right now, and specifically in the United States, it turns out we prefer tall, muscular men and shorter, thinner women. This is almost certainly where these fears some men seem to have about Black men come from. They associate "macho" and "masculine" with being tall, large and darker, while they associate "feminine" with being shorter, more petite, and fair. Well, black men (on average) are about as tall, large and as dark as humans can come, and Asian women are shorter than both Caucasian and Black women on average, while also being fair skinned and petite.

 

I want to emphasize that this does not mean that Black men are inherently more masculine (or that Asian women are inherently more feminine), but that our current cultural norms happen to favor their appearance.

 

Of course, there's a lot of other variables than the ones I just named. Overall, I'd still say white guys are in by far the best position romantically. Even if we take obvious racists out of the equation, much of our culture still subconsciously associates whiteness with power, wealth and success and this benefits Caucasians of both genders hugely. There's a pretty large body of evidence that shows that white men still do best with white women by an overwhelming margin, and not only that, that both Asian women and Latina women seek out white men disproportionate to what you'd expect.

 

I think it's less of a case of White men being left out than it is that White men's automatic and instant victory over men of any other race has disappeared. There was a time when white men won by default because they had all the power. Some Caucasian males are threatened by the fact that they have any competition at all -- even if they still have the advantage -- because compared to 60 or even 20 years ago, having any competition at all is worse than having no competition whatsoever.

Edited January 8, 2013 by bodhesatva

[40 Fonzarelli]

^^^

 

I'd have to disagree with asian women being the most feminine. They lack feminine curves, sex appeal, and are short. How can you have long, sexy legs when your under 5 feet? I say Latinas win by a landslide. When dating interracially, white guys seem to be the only ones that go after asian women.

[bodhesatva]

^^^

 

I'd have to disagree with asian women being the most feminine. They lack feminine curves, sex appeal, and are short. How can you have long, sexy legs when your under 5 feet? I say Latinas win by a landslide. When dating interracially, white guys seem to be the only ones that go after asian women.

 

Oh I'm not suggesting that everyone agrees that they're the sexiest. I'm not especially attracted to Asian women myself. Just as there are almost certainly women who can say, "How are black men the most masculine? Black men have the highest rates of obesity in the US!"

 

The point isn't to suggest these are somehow fair or just or that everyone would agree with them, but that these are common, implicit perceptions by many people. In other words, it's a "trend:" trends aren't followed by everyone, and they aren't "correct" or "true" in any absolute sense, they just represent the momentary preferences of a populace.

 

I'm sure we can both agree that there are a good number of white men out there with an "asian fetish." Even if you and I don't happen to be included in that group. The question is: where did that fetish come from? Why isn't, let's say, a Native American fetish as widespread? Or an Indian fetish? I'm sure there are at least a few people who have such preferences, but not enough to create hundreds of porn websites dedicated to them a la Asian women. Again, just for emphasis: I am not saying these preferences are fair or correct, I am only observing their existence and trying to figure out why they're around.

Edited January 9, 2013 by bodhesatva