Leegh Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 What would be the point of a guy emailing me saying he'll call soon, (this week, etc.) and then doesn't? This happens about once a month, and I send him favorable return emails, saying let's meet for drinks, etc., and then I hear no reply from him. Then about a month later, he'll out of the blue, email me again, saying he'll call, and does not. If he does this again, I plan to ignore him and not reply whatsoever. I think it is crappy to do this repeatedly to someone, i.e., leading me on. Why would he do this and what does he have to gain by this when he clearly does not want to see me? We only went out initially a couple of times, so it's not like I'm an old girlfriend to have as a safety net. Does this sound like he could be married, or just nutty? Do guys change their minds this much?
soccerrprp Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 What would be the point of a guy emailing me saying he'll call soon, (this week, etc.) and then doesn't? This happens about once a month, and I send him favorable return emails, saying let's meet for drinks, etc., and then I hear no reply from him. Then about a month later, he'll out of the blue, email me again, saying he'll call, and does not. If he does this again, I plan to ignore him and not reply whatsoever. I think it is crappy to do this repeatedly to someone, i.e., leading me on. Why would he do this and what does he have to gain by this when he clearly does not want to see me? We only went out initially a couple of times, so it's not like I'm an old girlfriend to have as a safety net. Does this sound like he could be married, or just nutty? Do guys change their minds this much? I do what I say I will do, so not all guys do this. But, perhaps a guy with other dating options who wants to keep you tethered? Not a good sign in any case and would suggest you move on. 1
april38 Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 He's either involved with someone else, or he just needs the occasional ego boost of knowing you're still interested. I always think of the line from He's Just Not That Into You - If I guy wants to see you, he will make it happen. I would put him in the "flake" category and move on. But that's just me, I have to remind myself of it occasionally, but I do and let it go. Eventually they either realize that they had better try harder to get my attention, or they give up completely which means they just weren't all that interested in me afterall....
Treasa Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 I never reply to emails like this. If they call, cool. If not, I'm probably already over them because I didn't put much stock into their email notification.
mortensorchid Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 I know a guy like this as well. Every once in a while he will email me through Facebook and say "Hey want to get together for dinner/drinks sometime soon?" and I will say "Sure, what's a good time for you?" and I never hear back from him. He's an ok guy I guess, I don't really know him, but I just say he's a bit of a flake and doesn't really follow up with others. So that's that and I don't hold my breath at it, like you shouldn't with him.
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