mellum Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Pleaaase help me, i am driving myself insane. I am in a new relationship of 9 weeks and this is all very new to me. I am 22 and have been incredibly hurt during my childhood that meant i kept myself emotionally unavailable in previous relationships. However, i met a man who i feel i can trust. I bared my soul to him and slowly with his help ive become emotionally open and attached to him. However, a few days i made a foolish mistake to check his messages on facebook, only to find a message from another girl saying how much she missed him and his cuddles. He confronted why i checked his messages and to cut a long story short, he cried, saying she was only a good friend and that i could check his other messages, email account and even ask her if i wanted. I was embarrassed so i declined and we talked things through. The thing is, i believe he wont cheat on me, hes romantic, sensitive and thoughtful. What bothers me is that he has alot of female friends who seem to flirt with him and he responds in find. But he has constantly reassured me, saying he thinks im beautiful, hes never felt like this with anyone else, how much he misses me and cares for me... but i have a hard time beliving this. I know im basically contradicting myself but thats how this all feels in my head. How can i over come my issues? I want this to work because i feel that if it doesnt, i shall close my heart to men forever. Sorry its long, but some advice would be greatly appreciated.
Emilia Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 The thing is, i believe he wont cheat on me, hes romantic, sensitive and thoughtful. What bothers me is that he has alot of female friends who seem to flirt with him and he responds in find. But he has constantly reassured me, saying he thinks im beautiful, hes never felt like this with anyone else, how much he misses me and cares for me... but i have a hard time beliving this. I know im basically contradicting myself but thats how this all feels in my head. How can i over come my issues? I want this to work because i feel that if it doesnt, i shall close my heart to men forever. Sorry its long, but some advice would be greatly appreciated. I think if he was that sensitive and kind, he wouldn't respond in kind to women who flirt with him. Of course I don't know what you consider 'flirting' and how he responds exactly but considerate people don't tend to encourage others while in a relationship. Beware of attention whores.
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