Coping Vortex Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 (edited) It's been 6 weeks post BU. we were off and on NC and last week we have been texting. All friends zone bread crumbs. I don't why I torture myself this way. I feel so disrespected. All her meaningful and loving communication is saved for her new man. It's like the girl I knew has died. This girl is some numb zombie of a human being. Not sure if her feelings for me are gone or she trying hard to remain aloof so she can remain true to her new man. I knew this girl for years and she has known this guy for weeks. And he gets the best part of her???? It's so hard to fake mundane chitchat. Our texts used to be full of undying love, missing each other and eroticism. Communicating with her now feels the past love bond was a dream. Like it never really happened. I guess when you see someone act now in a certain way that is polar opposite than the way they acted before its hard to imagine they were different in the past. It plays with your head. The texts I have with this "new" girl are banal at best. Where is the girl that looked into my eyes and told me how much loved me? The girl that would drop anything to be with me? I miss her so much. I just don't know who this person is anymore. This is so surreal. Edited January 7, 2013 by Coping Vortex
GSB81 Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Oh I know the feeling. Only difference is mine wasn't with another guy at the time. She'd string me along with some bread crumbs, I'd take the bait, she'd then cut off the bread crumbs leaving me wondering wtf? She wanted to remain friendly while we "sorted things out" yet the majority of the time we only communicated if I initiated it and kept it going. I'd ask questions about whatever was going on with her, like finals, and all I'd get was one word replies. So I'd go NC, then she'd bitch about how I wasn't talking to her! I'd try to get her to go somewhere with me, after all that's what friends do right? Well, she never had time, she was always busy with school. That is unless one of her girls wanted to do something, then she had plenty of time. Me: hey, I'm bored and hungry. How does a movie and IHOP sound? Her: Sorry, I have to study. Facebook status hours later: Sushi with the girls! Me: Hey, looks like you're taking a study break.. Her: Stalking my Facebook huh? Me: Yup, I like to be all sneaky and check my Newsfeed. I'm creepy like that. Let her go man, she's pretty much dead to you now. Pull the plug and start healing.
Castia Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 (edited) I had the exact same thing although my ex hasn't met anybody new (I think..) We were together for 6 months and we didn't have a single argument or falling out, Id never even seen her in a grumpy mood we would tell each other on a daily basis how happy and in love we are then all of a sudden she ended it, said she wasn't ready for a relationship. We have spoken via text a few times since the split and I dont even know this girl, it's like somebody as stole her phone and is pretending to be her. She's got an attitude like iv done something wrong although although she says I haven't. This is the hardest thing for me to take we were so happy then within the space of 2 days without any arguments or falling out it was over, I just dont get it. Christmas Day..at her mums with her and the rest of her family, it was a brilliant day and we said we would be together for ever. December 28th it was over just like that, I will never understand what happened but im slowly getting over it. Edited January 7, 2013 by Castia
cavalier99 Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 It's been 6 weeks post BU. we were off and on NC and last week we have been texting. All friends zone bread crumbs. I don't why I torture myself this way. I feel so disrespected. All her meaningful and loving communication is saved for her new man. It's like the girl I knew has died. This girl is some numb zombie of a human being. Not sure if her feelings for me are gone or she trying hard to remain aloof so she can remain true to her new man. I knew this girl for years and she has known this guy for weeks. And he gets the best part of her???? It's so hard to fake mundane chitchat. Our texts used to be full of undying love, missing each other and eroticism. Communicating with her now feels the past love bond was a dream. Like it never really happened. I guess when you see someone act now in a certain way that is polar opposite than the way they acted before its hard to imagine they were different in the past. It plays with your head. The texts I have with this "new" girl are banal at best. Where is the girl that looked into my eyes and told me how much loved me? The girl that would drop anything to be with me? I miss her so much. I just don't know who this person is anymore. This is so surreal. Are you getting tired yet of the self inflicted torture? Maybe consider trying NC? You might actually be relieved if you give it a extended go.
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