gypsy25 Posted August 19, 2004 Posted August 19, 2004 I have a question for anyone who might have any idea what the answer might be. I work on movie sets, and on the last one I worked on, I met this really great guy who was also working on the set. We met the first day and every day after we really got along amazingly and joked and laughed and talked about our families and friends and realized we had basically everything in common. Smae career goals, same interests, same family backgrounds, same sense of humor, I mean it was almost bizarre. After the first week, he mentioned he had to go out of town for the weekend but he asked me for my e-mail. Two days later he e-mailed me while he was out of town saying that when he got back he wanted to take me out for a cup of coffee. I e-mailed him back and said of course. Anyways, when he got it was the first day of work back on set, and at the end of that day he walked me to my car and we kissed. He told me he wanted to see me that night and he would call me. ( We didn't have work the next day) So he calls me up that night and asks me to come over to watch a DVD. I drove over and he had wine and cheese and crackers and a movie waiting. It was very nice. About an hour into the movie we started making out and it led to sex. We talked for hours after it was over and it felt really right. I slepr over and then had to do some things the next day and left. Anyways, on all of our days off we saw each other and had the best time and we got very close. The movie wrapped about 2 weeks ago and he began on a new project right after it wrapped. He wants to see me every weekend and he is always the one to call me, I never call him. I guess what I am concerned about is if we had sex too early? I want to make sure he is not using me for sex because I never have sex that early on in a relationship and I really don't want him to think that I'm easy or loose. Also, this has been going on for a month, and he works very long days (like 14-16 hours) so I'm not sure if he wants something serious. I am being very cautious about getting serious and close to him, because I'm afraid that if I start acting like I want a serious or commited relationship with him he will freak out and stop calling, but at the same time, I don't want him to think that I'm not interested in him as a boyfriend, because I am. I guess what I'm asking is what should I do? Should I keep acting non chalant and casual about this (never calling him, always letting him call me and never asking him to do anything or letting him know that I'm thinking about him) or should I start acting like a real girlfriend?
Mary3 Posted August 19, 2004 Posted August 19, 2004 I think that when he asked you over for a movie ( DVD ) that has a potential to put you both in an intimate setting. Was it too soon ? Thats very hard to say because when there is chemistry sometimes things happen fast....its up to you to not put yourself in a situation that may lead to intimacy. ... But we all may have questioned if it was * too soon * ( myself included ) What do you want ? Where do you want this to go ? If you are looking for a relationship with this man and have been regularly intimate then I feel its okay to tell him your feelings. If its truly just * sex * that he wants....Is that what YOU want ? Just that ? Or More ? You have a * right * to expect an answer especially since you are giving a part of yourself to this man....
honey2005 Posted August 19, 2004 Posted August 19, 2004 I think if you're worried that he's only using you for sex you should stop having sex with him for a bit and see what happens. If he stops calling you will know it was just sex, but if he hangs around talk to him about your relationship and see what he wants out of it.
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