it's finally over - and i think it might actually kill me

[Own Worst Enemy]

attraction is essential. but only shallow and short-sighted people say they have to be gorgeous.

[thefooloftheyear]

To the OP...I feel for you..Thats a tough thing to have to deal with, no doubt. You would think that "true love" would survive those types of things.....

 

That being said, I have to chuckle a bit at all of the women on this thread that make it sound like appearances dont matter at all. Just take a look at just about ANY profile that a woman puts on a dating site. On the one hand, they put their body type as "athletic" or a "few extra pounds" when in reality by looking at the photos that is obviously NOT the case. Then, in almost every instance, they demand that their mate be no less than 6' tall!!

 

Yep, looks dont mean a thing to you ladies. Its all whats inside that counts.:laugh:!!

 

TFOY

[Own Worst Enemy]

of course we all have ideals. and if you're on the pull in a bar or something, maybe you stick to them.

 

but if you're already together and something changes, or if you know them really well first, then looks should become irrelevant as you should find them lovely for who they are.

 

humph.

[venusianx13]

Wow, OP... that's terrible. How awfully painful hearing that must have been for you. I'm angry, on your behalf, because someone who truly loves you wouldn't string you along, "waiting for you to sort yourself out". What a shallow and selfish excuse for a man. If he were concerned for your health and was motivating you to get in shape by dieting WITH YOU or joining a gym together, then this would be a different story altogether. I'm sure he wasn't perfect, either, right?

 

Bottom line is, someone who loves you does not need for you to change something about yourself to appease THEM. My guess is, he'll never be happy with anyone he's with, until he sorts out his own obvious issues. I guarantee that once you've begun your healing process, you will pity him. AND if I were you, I'd use this as motivation to get into a healthy diet and fitness routine - not to spite him, but to be good to yourself (you are deserving of your own love and kindness!) Eventually, you will meet a man who loves you for you.