rewindmyheart Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 My girlfriend and I dated for 10 months- great relationship, always said we were soul mates. I was good to her, but I became very insecure with myself due to personal and family problems, 8 months into the relationship. I never told her what I was going through. I slowly screwed up the relationship because I became very unsatisfied with things, and would always make an issue out of nothing important (due to issues i now understand thanks to a councelor)I pushed her away- made her feel like she had to 'change' as a person to make me happy, which i will forever regret. I didn't even realize i was doing it until after the break up. She would always tell me I was to sensitive to talk to, and i'm sure i was. So she ended up not feeling able to communicate with me due to the way I would react and became 'fed up' with my behaviour out of nowhere and dumped me saying 'i don't think we're right for eachother' but said she loved me and cared for me deeply. I cried a bit, asked what went wrong, but I didn't beg, or plead for her back, and in fact i texted her 2 days after the fact and thanked her for it because we were not happy people anymore. (at the time i didn't understand my part in it). I got my stuff after a week, and when I picked it up she was crying. I said thanks for the amazing memories and that i was so thankful she had come into my life, she kissed me on the cheek and we had a long hug goodbye. 3 weeks go by of no contact (in which i am doing a ton of self improvement and working on being happy again.) I send her a text seeing how she has been doing, and we kept low contact than i asked her if we could go for a walk. I get to her place and she says she is not feeling well and that i should just come up. We had a nice catch up, and we were flirting with each other, she said she missed me and has been drinking a lot since we broke up because she feels 'lost'. I than tell her the real reason for wanting to see her, which is to apologize, and so i did. I told her i was insecure and going through a lot and took it out on our relationship, and that she was an amazing girlfriend.. and that i realize so much now and have grown a lot from all the pain. She started to cry and said she was just fed up and thats why it happened. I was leaving and she asked if i could stay because she liked being in my company. I stayed a little longer and when I was leaving she asked if we could see eachother again. I said okay, hugged her and than left. She has been texting me since, telling me her dog misses me and flirting a bit via text but hasn't asked me to hang out again or anything. I just don't know what to do, I love her SO much. I finally asked her to hang out again this weekend.. We have been broken up for 2 months now. Should I ask for another chance? Should I just hang out with her and keep being flirty? Does she just want to be friends? I just want to know if the door is open, or if she knows in her heart it wont work. I want to know so I can either work on getting her back or work on moving on. Any advice? Sorry for the long post, and thanks for any advice!!
rys Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 telling me her dog misses me the things we can't say signs say she may want you back
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