meg1818 Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 i been talking with this girl for two months. we had plans to meet a few weeks through and her mom passed away. she became very clingy. after a bit she became more distant ignoring me days at a time, then apologizing saying her head hasn't been there but she misses me immensely. i ask her out for this sunday? she agreed but as the day went on became more distant. sunday came the next day and she completely ignored me all day, i text bombed her and still have gotten no replies. i have a right to be upset but when she does this ignoring crap, it makes me act very irrational. she has done it at least twice before. i am just really attached to her.
Lani Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 How long ago did her mother pass away? My personal opinion is that you just need to give her some time. I mean, yeah, she should probably get back to you, but if her mum has only recently passed away then her head probably isn't in the right place. She's probably also thinking that this thing between you is only new, and when she does lean on you for support she's probably feeling scared that she shouldn't so early on in the piece. Have a chat to her and tell her you want to be there for her (if that is the case), but you're part of this thing too and she needs to stop ignoring you for days at a time because it's just not cool. Either way, stop text bombing her.. It never helps any situation. 1
Author meg1818 Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 about a month ago. i will try but the more i stare at my phone the more i want a reply and the more i text ! it's evil. but we had plans to finally meet and she couldn't even send one text saying sorry i can;t come. she has said she was scared and pushes people away, and that she really liked me and apologized her ****tty behavior. then went on to blame it on her mom and not having her head on right and that she wants me to not go away. i just don't know how much more emotional abuse i can take. ignoring is very wrong and i dont know if i should walk away. i could never ignore texts
Lani Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Then let her know that. Tell her that ignoring your texts is not cool. If she's feeling ****ty and doesn't want to talk, she needs to tell you so you know to go away (even though silence is a pretty good indicator of that). If she continues, after you've told her it's not something you are ok with, then you need to walk away. Tough, but true.
Author meg1818 Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 yes i told her all this. i told her ignoring me is a trigger, and that i will get nasty till i get a response, which is what is happening. and i told her in another argument if u want me to go away tell me, and she said no to keep pushing that she wants me. i feel like she gives me a push pull, gives me just enough to make me stay, then her behavior goes back to being distant. then she apologizes, and it's not been good past few weeks. right now i sent way too many texts i cant send anymore. i just want to know shes ok. but somehow she does me wrong and i end up feeling like i;m the way who is doing the wrong.
Lani Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Dude... just chill out and stop sending her so many messages. If I get more than two messages without replying, it scares me off guys like you wouldn't believe. It's not ok with you that she doesn't reply, and she keeps doing it anyway. Stop contacting her, and tell her if she wants to see you she's going to have to do something about it. If a relationship is this much hard work, ESPECIALLY at the beginning, then it's not the right one.
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