What's wrong with this guy ?! Guys especially, please give some insite!

[carolina]

I'm sure you guys are sick of hearing from me by now, but I just learned something new about my ex....

 

Short background:

 

We dated for 5 1/2 years....then he broke up with me b/c he started seeing "Liz". She was more exciting. He dated her for 8 months. Then he came back to me. He won me w/ his good lines.... "It took being with her to realize how much I really miss you....." and stuff like that. We were back together & I was happy. We decided if we get back together that it would be b/c we were working towards marriage....we (mostly me though) set a deadline of when we should be engaged by if this relationship is gonna continue....I'm not gonna date another 5 years.

 

Anyway, when the 'deadline' came he said he "just wasn't ready....it just didn't feel right...." and other crap like that. Oh, he also said he had 'unresolved feelings for Liz!!" even though HE broke up with her!! He's like I should have taken time for myself after leaving her before getting back with you.....

 

Anyway, now it's 5 months later. I'm still not over him. We talked the other day (b/c some of my stuff is still over there) and he's like "Yea, I was out of town this weekend, in California". Two months after they broke up, she moved cross country for work. So, when he said he was there, I knew what that meant!!! I was right.

 

He says, he's single, he can date whomever he wants...That is true. But I'm like why'd you even bother getting back with me if you were just gonna get back with her??!!

 

His reason for seeing her gets even better! I found out he's seeing her b/c things are more 'comfortable' with someone you already know. He says it's hard to meet people here (Chicago). He says all he meets at the clubs are sluts & hos. I'm like then don't go to a club looking for a girlfriend!

 

Am I the only one who thinks it's crazy/he's crazy going back with her b/c it's too hard to meet anyone else ?! I'm like you broke up for a reason...What are you going to do, keep recycling your girlfriends.

 

I found it kinda sad that that's the reason he's trying to see her.

 

Who knows if it'll work out. Relationships are tough enough when you live in the same city let alone cross country.

 

What do you guys think??

 

He's a 36 year old guy!! Think he just doesn't know what he wants ???

 

It's just hard for me to hear he's back with the girl he already left me for once....and now it seems like twice.

[BubbleBear81]

He honestly sounds like a guy who doesn't have a clue as to what the hell he wants outta life.

Any guy who refers to women as sluts and hoes-is a freakin jackass and has some uderlying issues with women ,perhaps from his past he as not yet dealt with).

 

Move on and let this baby grow up..cause thats what he seems to be, a friggin child.

[johnnyl321]

he's clueless. he's had his opportunity with you twice now, don't make it a third. you'll have no self respect left if you do.

i have often wondered the same thing about women. what do you want? some say a nice guy, but that ain't so, is it?

some say a manly guy...but then he's not sensitive enough

some will say a funny guy to make me laugh, and then say he doesn't take me seriously enough.

do you think anyone knows what they want? or do you think it's a case of we see what we think we like?