Onlyjonley Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 If you've read a couple of my (somewhat) recent posts on here, I was concerned with where my SO saw the relationship going as we hadn't really talked about the future in terms of us. We would discuss marriage, kids, finances, weddings, etc ..but never directly about us. He did say he saw our relationship as a lasting one and was excited about where it was headed, but never went into details. I got a little crap on here from others saying I was pressuring him and should just enjoy the relationship for what it was right now. I didn't think I was being overbearing as I had only brought up the topic a couple of times with him. But I pretty much let the topic be for a few months just to give him time and space. He went back home to visit his family for the holidays and when he got back, he told me they were asking him questions about what the future had in store for us. He told them he was thinking he'd propose in about a year. After a little probing from me, he disclosed that he had $700 to pay on a credit card in the next couple of months and then would start saving for a ring. He has also started saying things like "Some day, our kids ..." and "When we buy a house ..." which is a very nice change! (Who am I kidding ... I pretty much die inside every time!) So maybe shutting my mouth, giving him space, and just enjoying our wonderful relationship was just what he needed. Now that I know where we're headed and that we're on the same page, I feel like I can really relax. It feels good. And because the surprise/excitement aspect of the proposal is incredibly important to my boyfriend, I have to be good about not probing him for details over the next year. That may be hard .. Anyway, thanks to those of you who had responded with advice/encouragement in the past on this particular topic. Always appreciated. 1
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