kayla85 Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 (edited) Hello, So I have been friends with this guy for 7 yrs the past 5 yrs we had an on and off fling because I was married (Marriage Sucked as we both got married young and he was a cheater). 2years ago I got a divorce (im now 27) and this guy and I decided to try to make it work. I really love him and care deeply about him, and he claims he love and care about me, he moved 3hrs away for work, so its even harder. We have had good moments together, he knows me, I know him, I support him, he supports me, he see me as his future wife (He Claims). BUT He treats me like ****. He is stressed out about passing the medical school entrance test (MCAT), he has taken this test 3 times now,His dad is sick, and his daughter is growing up with out him there (his family is in another country). He takes his frustration out on me all the time, like his emotional punching bag. One minute he wants me in his life, he apologizes for putting me through hell, but then the next minute everything I do piss him off. He criticize me on how I look (im a plus size girl), my career choices, how I live my life, etc. He refuses to meet my parents because we are not completely official and he thinks its not right, though they knew about him the past 7yrs. He doesnt want me to talk to anyone about our issues. Recently he got mad at me because I accidentally interrupt him while he was telling me a stupid story, I asked him how his day was, he got upset. The same night he text me "do me a favor, please dont ask me how my day was, or how I was doing every again, thanks" I got really upset. He said me showing him attention and love his annoying and its stressing him out. He thinks by me asking him, he is forced to ask how my day was, because I got upset about it before. (Sometimes if I dont call, I done hear from him) He later said, I need a woman who will understand me and not try to always make her point when im stressed out. He is so rude and disgusting. He even said to me that everytime he takes his test I always do this before the test and its now a pattern, he basically wants me to sit back and shut up. Over the years, I have taken emotional abuse from him and my husband, but mostly him. He treats me like ****, but claims he loves me....the only thing left for him to do his hit me....He gets so stressed that he always say he wants to kill himself. I try to get him help, but he always gets upset. I cant do this to myself. I snapped and went off on him, I finally told him it was over, and blocked his number, we have been going through this for a while on and off, I say im done he try to win my heart and I fall for it. I am venting, im hurt, unsure, and feeling guilty....I must move on but its so hard I am college graduate with a degree in the healthcare field, i have a great job. I have loving parents who are still married and supports me, my sister is also a big part of my life and she hates him. Why am I doing this to myself..... Edited January 7, 2013 by kayla85
lovehurtz23 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 you are speaking my life besides ur a little older , i just know to leave but im scared because i really love him you just have to realize what will make u feel better then stick to it
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