na49 Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 I've been solid NC for 2 months now. The only time I broke it was when I texted her "There's nothing we need to talk about. Please leave me alone" followed up by blocking her number. Well the reason I had to tell her that was because she was constantly texting me late at night saying "we need to talk" "i miss you, i really want to talk to you" Now I feel like I dug myself into an even deeper hole. I'm still in love with this girl even though she dumped me. I feel like she may want to try us again, but I have no idea. I want to check her facebook but am afraid of what I'll see. I guess it's important to mention she did cheat on me. I obviously didn't catch her, but her friends told me after she dumped me because they thought I should know. Could what she said mean she wants me back? She texted me on Christmas and Christmas Eve. Two days that I definitely wasn't expecting to hear from her. Have I ruined any chances at reconciliation? Should I find out what she wants? Does anyone have any ideas? I'm driving myself crazy over this lol.
Lone Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 My opinion is to find out what she wants to say. That way you can move forward accordingly. I wouldn't do it over the phone though as you might get dragged into disclosing info which you would probably want to keep to yourself - i.e. how you feel about her... If she wants to speak to you let her. Just LISTEN, dont get mad. Afterwards say thanks and leave it so you have time to think about your options before you act out of emotion. End of day - if she wants you back she will let you know. Can you have a look at my thread also please...
fancy feast Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 In your other threads, you said you were on winter break. If that's still the case, then just wait to get back to school. If she absolutely has something to say to you, then she'll find a way to contact you. 1
Author na49 Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 I figured I'd update everyone. I cracked and looked at her twitter last night. Saw that nothing's really changed. She's still talking to the guy she cheated on me with and left me for. She had a bunch of love quotes and tweets about how "She wants someone to fight for her instead of fighting" I had to resist the urge to think the tweets like that were directed at me because I know that they weren't. Luckily I didn't see a picture of her with another guy. I saw a picture of her with her friends that was recent and it hurt. Her life hasn't stopped at all since she left me. Whether she stays my friend or not was just her way of relieving some guilt. Nothing more. It sucks that I had to see what I saw last night, but I think in the long term it can help if it gets rid of any crazy thoughts that she wants me back or to try us again.
SharkTooth Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 That totally sucks but you sound like you have an good head on your shoulders. Closure is terrible in the short term but it'll be awesome for you in the long term! Hang in there bro, the healing time will be shorter now that you have the answer! Lots of fun and exciting woman out there! Remember, keep it fun and simple! Best of luck
Author na49 Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 That totally sucks but you sound like you have an good head on your shoulders. Closure is terrible in the short term but it'll be awesome for you in the long term! Hang in there bro, the healing time will be shorter now that you have the answer! Lots of fun and exciting woman out there! Remember, keep it fun and simple! Best of luck Thanks. It hurts so much to think that this person is really over me. It's like I never meant anything to her and she's more than happy to live her life without me in it. (well she did ask to be friends... not possible for me though) I'm pissed about everything, but at the same time there's nothing I can do. I can't make her love me again, so hopefully once I go back to school I can start flirting with a few new girls and maybe even have a few new crushes.
eleve82 Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Whatever the situation is, I think its ridiculous that you told her you had nothing to say to her while you are going nuts over every little thing she says on social media trying to interpret every little thing she does. If you are lying about your true feelings, because pride got in your way of being honest, why do you think she is also going to bare her heart on twitter or facebook?? Listen to Lone and talk to her
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