OCCDAVE Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 Well I called the girl this morning but no answer .I then get a text like few hours later saying this Her.hey I'm at work can I call you Tomo ? Me.thats fine but are you working Tomo Her.no why? Me.i wanted to know if you would like to grab some lunch ? Her.sounds cool Me.ok ill text you with the info bit later Her,cools I know text can be taken wrong but I didn't like how the convo went.Them again she said ya and I won't lie I'm beyond nervous .Ive talked to a few girls but this will be my first date since 09 with my ex wife heh 2
soccerrprp Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Don't want to burst your bubble, but does she know that she likes you? Or does she like you? Not everyone who is asked to lunch is thinking "date." Anyway, be confident and be yourself. 1
Balzac Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 This is HUGE whatever she thinks or doesn't think. Treat it like a date. I'm really happy for you to reach this milestone moment and take the leap! You'd better update all of us here cheering you on. 3
soccerrprp Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Hey, sorry. It is a big step and didn't mean to minimize the importance of this event. GOOD LUCK! 1
ja123 Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Congratulations! And have fun! Have some fun conversation topics planned ahead .. just a tip! We're waiting for the update! 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 Tbh I wanted her to answer this morning cause I felt if I asked her on the ph it would have shown more control.Any do's and don'ts for a first date .I already know dont mention any exes which is common sense .I read on another board I should mostly be asking questions ? Also if it goes well 'crosses fingers ' does the 2 day rule still apply
Balzac Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Hmmm mostly questions. I think it's nice to share a few short personal anecdotes, which you can think ahead on. Your guy deal is to get her to talk, laugh and feel that you're actively listening. Try to put her at ease. It's not a job interview. Ask away, tell us more, others here will chime in. What's your greatest fear?
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 I text her the info looks like it will be sushi (smh my pocket is gonna be light after lol) no biggie.Guess my biggest fear is not having much to say and having those Akward moments of silence .Like I said last date I had was my ex wife and oddly we just clicked .Another thing you always hear ppl say a girl knows within a certain amount of time if your rs type .Anyway thanks for all the help
todreaminblue Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 woot woot.....go dave have fun ....and yes saying cool is saying that you woudl enjoy that and are lookign forward to it....thats my word cool...yep cool.....woot woot.....updates would be cool too please..lookin forward to reading them...deb
Balzac Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Stop w the last date~exW rhetoric already. This is your new life, with your new improved self and a lovely lady for sushi lunch. Bento box or sashimi lunch special? It's a great venue because there will be plenty to talk about! She's chosen well and I'm certain sushi lunch is a welcome treat for her. Break out the chopstix. Here comes Dave with a cutie! 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 Stop w the last date~exW rhetoric already. This is your new life, with your new improved self and a lovely lady for sushi lunch. Bento box or sashimi lunch special? It's a great venue because there will be plenty to talk about! She's chosen well and I'm certain sushi lunch is a welcome treat for her. Break out the chopstix. Here comes Dave with a cutie!lol true this is my new life no more mentioned old news that's not worth it.Anyway way I see it work out it not ill still consider it a victory
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 I know I'm jumping the fun but say all goes well when do you mention wanting to see the person again ?
CptObvious Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Hey, let's just go over standard procedure first. 1. fap 2. puke out all the butterflies 3. get a little drink in you to settle down AIGHT DAVE, U GON GET IT IN. GET READY, GET HYPED.
Balzac Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 After you pay your check. But it's NOT required. I know I'm jumping the fun but say all goes well when do you mention wanting to see the person again ?
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 Well today is the day and my stomach is in knots .Do I need to send a text/call to confirm our lunch
Balzac Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Breathe. No texting to confirm. Are you meeting at the sushi restaurant? This date is gonna go smoothly. Stop visualizing awkward silences.
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 I think so I told her last night name of the place and a time she says sounds good so I'm assuming ya ?
sid3 Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Well today is the day and my stomach is in knots .Do I need to send a text/call to confirm our lunch Try picturing her in her undies if you're that nervous, I read somewhere it can help. 1
Balzac Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 You're good. Breathe. It's lunch with a lovely. Breathe. Don't think beyond lunch. Breathe. This is the new and improved Dave. Breathe. Active listening. Share your story but keep it short. Women love to talk.
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 Well I just got a message from a girl I was talking to online 2weeks ago and she gave me her number.So far good start to today 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 Mandy just text me saying can we make it 3 instead if 2 stick to my guns and say no or sure why not
Balzac Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Say sure. It's not that big a deal. Strike 1. HaHa.
rupert-hill Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 She was probably doing her hair and needed more time.
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