Mount Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 I am seeing so many OWs expressing the pain, depression mood because of NC, or ending relationship with MM. I understand the involvement with MM must occupy a lot in each OW's brain, me sometimes too, but I just wonder if every OW still has lots of postive achievement in other areas of life, i.e. financial wise, career-wise, because the relationship with MM is not the priority, people comes and goes, no one is worthy of any OW taking antidepressants or any medication to function. That is crazy. And it does not matter if the guy is MM, or single guy, each woman has love herself the most first. That is the key. 5
promises Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 I am seeing so many OWs expressing the pain, depression mood because of NC, or ending relationship with MM. I understand the involvement with MM must occupy a lot in each OW's brain, me sometimes too, but I just wonder if every OW still has lots of postive achievement in other areas of life, i.e. financial wise, career-wise, because the relationship with MM is not the priority, people comes and goes, no one is worthy of any OW taking antidepressants or any medication to function. That is crazy. And it does not matter if the guy is MM, or single guy, each woman has love herself the most first. That is the key. I've had a few great losses in the year. This just sent me over the top. I have a great job. I have a visible role in the community and with children. I have great friends. I take pride in being fit. I am a travel nut. Educated. Life isn't all about this flake, but, great post to remember that. Great post.
neveragain34 Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 I have a new job that I love, a great son, my own house, nice car, a masters degree, and have been working out a lot lately to finally fit into a size 4 for the first time in years!! When my exMM came into my life, it felt like everything was finally falling together and I'd have that missing piece so it was tough when I realized he wasn't "the one", but belonged to someone else. I will get back to that happy place by continuing to focus on all of these other positives. Thanks for the reminder!! By the way, I don't think the MM are the sole reason for some of us on anti-depressants. A lot of us had issues before we met them which led to the affair in the first place. That was the case for me anyway. Perhaps if I addressed my issues and started taking antidepressants long ago, I wouldn't have felt the need to settle for the crumbs of a pathetic man. Live and learn! 3
Catplates Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Yes I have areas of achievement in my life. I am a school principal, Master's Degree, and am well repsected in education cirlces for my work with children from non English speaking backgrounds. I have been a principal for 25 years. I am a volunteer in the community and sacrifice some of my weekends to my charity. I own my own home, car and have the money to travel a lot. I also have no debts. Overall, my life is very good. When the A was happening, there were good times apart from ex MM. Antidepressants were never required when I was in the A. I admit I was miserable and became more so as time went on. Of course it would be ludicrous for the OW to live on antidepressants. Life was good but so much better now that the A is well and truly over. Cat. 1
LadyRecovery Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Great thread! I have a wonderful family and amazing friends. Great career and financially well off. 4 degrees and continue to enrich my life. Many other interests and do a lot of volunteer/animal rescue work. Own my house and car. My life does not revolve around the MM. For now, he adds to it. If that changes, he won't be in my life anymore. 1
stevie_23 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I’ve just started anti-depressants to try and feel better. I actually already WAS feeling better but think this will further help me. I don’t find it a weakness or anything. I am not giving “power” to my ex either. I am merely trying to move on and be as ok as I can be right now. Other accomplishments? Meh. Not much. I’m just a secretary. Boring, boring. I have no kids (nor do I want any, apart from my two cat “sons”, heheh), I own an apartment (condo for you US folks) but we’ve been trying to sell it for a year and it’s not going well because of the terrible property market…I write and sing songs in my spare time…I want to do something with those…that’s about it.
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