Friends with Benefits Anger

[ForeverClueless]

Hey guys,

 

I'm gonna start off by saying that I’m a complete newbie too all of this. So apologies in advance.

 

I started seeing this guy almost a year ago. Well, I say ‘Seeing’, I’m completely confused by the whole fiasco, nevertheless we were never publicly in a relationship. Recently he’s gone really cold on me, he stopped texting and to put in in the words of Gotye ‘Now you're just somebody that I used to know’.

 

I guess it’s kinda my fault. From the start both mine and his friends equally warned me that he was a bit of a womanizer. As he happily sustained that lovely status thought-out the last year we were together. I don’t know why I carried on the relationship for so long. Granting, He always made me smile and we had fun, even if it was just watching truly awful documentaries. I knew that he liked me, or at least I was a small twinkle in his eye. We have a lot of gossiping mutual friends who gladly propelled this information in my direction and if I was truly honest I felt the same way. I was also the only one of his girls who lasted; most of the other girls were a one or two night sort of thing.

 

I would never say I was ‘In love’ with him, It’s not like Whitney Houston played in my head every time I thought of him, but I kinda grew attached. I suppose if I had to pinpoint why I’m writing on here it’s that I’m just disappointed in him. Throughout, every one calling him a heartless womanizer it didn't matter to me as I always thought at least I was his friend first. However now I just feel like if that was true he would have at least had the respect for me as a friend to break it off or something. You know a quick text ‘Hey how’s you. P.s I think you’re a megaskank now’ sorta thing. Instead of being a true gent telling me the truth, he went behind my back and told my best friend how he doesn't find me attractive and that he has a girl at home. Only to then go and sleep with me that night before i got to talk to my friend. I knew I should have been stronger and left a long time ago but, we both go to university together and the cheap cider talks stronger than I can say no.

 

I’ve always been told that I’m too positive about life, glass half full sort of gurl. So It’s why this whole thing has started to bother me so much, am I a penguin for just seeing the fun in the relationship and not seeing this person whose heartless and a user. I’m just a little down at the mo.

 

I suppose I just want everyone’s opinion on what to do. I know that I don’t want a sexual relationship with him anymore. It’s just I like him as a person; we have a lot of mutual friends and I don’t want it to be awkward for anyone. We also have a lot of classes together. However, there’s a part of me that just wants to scream at him like a prime time soap opera.

 

Lots of love. Forever Clueless <3

Edited January 6, 2013 by ForeverClueless

[Simon Phoenix]

I would cease having contact with this guy. Definitely do not sleep with him again. You know what he wants and it's not what you want, so you have to back away from him. Really not much else to it.