blue_jay_bird Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 I like to call it "Mental Gymnastics" those thoughts that all end in your ex coming back. (****ing Fantasy) One: First i unblock my ex, and a couple weeks later i make my display pic of me a my new boy looking hot together. Resulting in his jealousy, and coming back. Reality: He never comes back, we both move on. Who hear has Reuniting Fantasy's? They are so crazy
na49 Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 I think that my ex feeling like we need to talk means that she wants me back. The reality is that I have NO FREAKING IDEA what she wants and I've been going crazy thinking that I lost a chance to get her back and try things over.
FailedFirstLove Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 I keep thinking its all a surprise. And he would randomly turn up at my door on Xmas... Never happened... New Years.... Never happened... And now our anniversary 14th jan. won't happen. Or at least call me and say he misses me and loves me so the decision he made was completely wron and he majorly regrets it. Hahaha
Billyjo Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 I constantly imagine that she'll just be really drunk one night and she'll call or text me and sometimes I imagine she'll want to come over, or that she'll just need me to come get her and I'll race to her and she'll see that she can always count on me and we'll both cry and ...yeah, it's clearly just a fantasy lol
Esoteric Elf Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 I'm too ignorant and unwanted to have reuniting fantasies. I have uniting fantasies.
Simon Phoenix Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 I have thoughts of us spending holidays and events like that together, but I have no fantasies about the actual reunification at all.
suladas Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Same way, can't count how many times i've thought she would contact me and we'd be back together, or spending an event together.. Even though I rationalize it by telling myself it's been how long, she hasn't reached out once, why would anything change? Doesn't stop me from having the thoughts though. It hurt like hell in october when she went with her daughter on a vacation I was suppose to go on, since then the thoughts don't hurt.
Missing Him Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 I have them, too. I grab on to all of the things he said about loving me and wanting something in the future and being unsure of his decision, and I think that one day I'll randomly get a voicemail where he's like "I love you and I made a huge mistake." It won't happen. I'm working on getting myself to a place where I no longer hope for that, but it takes time. Reuniting fantasies are completely normal.
livelife Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 I like to call it "Mental Gymnastics" those thoughts that all end in your ex coming back. (****ing Fantasy) One: First i unblock my ex, and a couple weeks later i make my display pic of me a my new boy looking hot together. Resulting in his jealousy, and coming back. Reality: He never comes back, we both move on. Who hear has Reuniting Fantasy's? They are so crazy I have this too. Kinda makes you think though, we see them with someone new looking all happy, and we think " oh they're completely over us." But in their eyes, it could be the same. They're trying to make the other jealous and believe that they are happy without them.
Coping Vortex Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 I have been having them too. My ex is with a new man and I fantasize he dumps her and she comes back to me for support. I swoop in. Get her back. One thing that did happen in reality she broke NC and during the texting she admitted that I was still the best in bed ever for her. So at least one fantasy came true.
crashvector Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 I do...but i KNOW they are lies my heart keeps trying to tell me because it cannot accept she is gone yet.
Jono85 Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 the only fantasies i have now, which happen daily, and everytime i goto sleep at night, is her reaching out to me via text/phone call, and me naturally ignoring it. her taking a couple weeks, maybe a month, then trying again, me ignoring it. then she starts to realize what's really going on (me not caring to have her in my life anymore) and she starts ramping up contact, maybe consecutive calls with a voicemail, or an email asking to talk, etc , and me finally having to say something like "please stop contacting me. i have no desire to have any sort of relationship with you, friendship or other. thanks." BOOM. she's devestated, destroyed, and full of regret. she THEN spills that while she understands, she wants to say how sorry she is for taking me for granted and how she wish she never threw it away, etc etc etc. then i either continue on with my life, or have the option to let her back in at some point. so yeah, lol, my biggest fantasy right now is basically her crawling back and me telling her to go f*ck herself. i wish it weren't like that but i can't see myself ever taking her back after this. i know she's f*cked another guy, the one she recently started dating (she told me) and she's used goods now. don't want her.
ScienceGal Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 (edited) I think he will come back and we will move in together. That we will go to sleep each night together and wake up together. That after this time apart, we will know how much we want to be together and we will build a stronger relationship filled with ridiculous amounts of love and affection. My fantasy is a just a normal life with him. Edited January 7, 2013 by ScienceGal
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