Honiebee Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 I've just returned from university - and am quite lonely. A lot of my old friends from my hometown have moved away or we've drifted apart. I have about three people I see every now and again and would consider two of them close friends. I have a job but on average most people Re about 20/30 years older than me- so I don't really have a social circle or any good friends at work. How would I meet people my own age? When it comes to dating I'm stuck. I have met guys in bars/ clubs but they rarely want a relationship. I'm working through heartbreak at the moment, so am not looking to date, I'm just wondering how people realistically meet each other. I was told to hang around coffee shops? But in my experience, people go there to drink and read- not to meet other people. I would love to widen my social circle but am not sure how- without it breaking the bank. Thanks!
Author Honiebee Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 I've had extremely good luck with Meetup.com. 5 years ago I moved to a city where I knew literally no one, and I was able to put together a pretty solid circle of friends from meetup groups. It didn't happen overnight, of course, but it did happen eventually (give it probably 6 months). Sorry to sound like a wet blanket here- but that is safe? I have known friends who have had bad experiences with online dating. Not that this is dating, but you know what I mean! Thanks- I will check it out for sure! X
Phoe Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 I know how you feel! I recently moved back to my hometown after being at my university for several years, and of course all my old hometown friends have either moved away or we drifted too far apart and are no longer in contact. I still have a handful of friends from college but the lot of us are literally spread across the entire country... getting to see each other is a once or twice a year kind of thing. If that... I get along well with the people at my work but we do not socialize outside of the job. Most of them are a bit older than me so their social groups just naturally would not even include me. Also, this is a VERY small town, so there are no activities that I could go and take part in that would allow me to meet people. No clubs, no sporting activities, even the nightlife is utterly dead. My dating prospects are ridiculously slim due to this, which is fine because even though I've been single for 6 years now, I am in no hurry to get myself a boyfriend. I just wish I had some friends to spend time with every now and then!
Author Honiebee Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 I know how you feel! I recently moved back to my hometown after being at my university for several years, and of course all my old hometown friends have either moved away or we drifted too far apart and are no longer in contact. I still have a handful of friends from college but the lot of us are literally spread across the entire country... getting to see each other is a once or twice a year kind of thing. If that... I get along well with the people at my work but we do not socialize outside of the job. Most of them are a bit older than me so their social groups just naturally would not even include me. Also, this is a VERY small town, so there are no activities that I could go and take part in that would allow me to meet people. No clubs, no sporting activities, even the nightlife is utterly dead. My dating prospects are ridiculously slim due to this, which is fine because even though I've been single for 6 years now, I am in no hurry to get myself a boyfriend. I just wish I had some friends to spend time with every now and then! Do you ever feel lonely or are you okay with it? How do you spend your time? X
rys Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 aside from friends from school & work, some of the close i have are from forum groups. if you share the same hobby/ies, most probably you'll have many things to talk about.
Emilia Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Meetups generally happen in public places, often with latge groups of people. You give out as much or as little information as you're comfortable with. I don't really see how it could be any safer, provided you're not stupid about it ("Hey, person I just met 20 minutes ago, want to come hang out at my place?"). Any time you're meeting new people, there's the question of when/how much to trust. That just comes with the territory. I've met lots of cool people through meetup, I go surfing or sailing with them or to parties, yoga classes, etc.
TouchedByViolet Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Sometimes just put yourself out there and you might get lucky. I met one my closest friends randomly in an elevator after graduating university. Just started talking and bam bromance haha
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