starla33 Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 so lets say you went on a few dates with someone and went on vacation abroad. Would you try to keep in touch? I went away for a few weeks and the guy I had been seeing has not said one word to me...he did like a bunch of my statuses on FB, but that was about it.
veggirl Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 If he was the one who went away then NO I wouldn't be contacting him while he is on vaca. that seems too intrusive. I would hope though that if he was interested he would contact me a couple times while he is on vaca.
Author starla33 Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 If he was the one who went away then NO I wouldn't be contacting him while he is on vaca. that seems too intrusive. I would hope though that if he was interested he would contact me a couple times while he is on vaca. No it was me that want away, I did contact him once early on into it and he was responsive, but said "have a good vacation" which pretty much made me not want to contact him again
Treasa Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 The last time I went on vacation was in 2009, to Ireland. My boyfriend had been my boyfriend for almost five years at that point. I think I called him once and emailed him once. I was too busy having fun. I mostly just wanted to let him know I was ok, and what I had done so far. I don't think I would contact someone I had only been on a few dates with, nor would I want them to contact me. 1
MsSmurf Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 I think the burden is on the person on vacation. Since you're the person on vacation in this scenario I would say if you were really into this guy and wanted him to know you had been thinking of him then by all means contact him to say that you're thinking of him. If he's equally into you then he'd feel really good that he was on your mind during your fabulous vacation. If you're not that into him or on the fence then there is no reason to contact him. When you return if you can decide what you want to do and contact him to let him know you're back. I would think the person back home would feel really awkward contacting a we've-been-on-a-few-dates someone while said someone was on vacation. You're not really sure where you stand, you don't want to interrupt them, there may be a delay in getting communication, they may not be that into you, etc. This person is better off waiting until said someone has returned and then contacting to say they hoped they had a good time or whatever.
veggirl Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 He just doesn't want to intrude on your vaca when you are just starting to date. Just call him when you get back or something. If a guy I liked was on vaca and we'd just been on a few dates, I'd be flattered if he contacted me but like your guy did, I would try to subtley make it clear that if he doesn't its okay. and I think that's what "have a good vacation" was. Maybe text a couple days before you return and tell him you are having fun but looking forward to getting home and hope to see him then?
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