quite.foolish Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 So, she still comes in to my mind fairly frequently. Any time she gets there I just keep replaying what a horrible mistake I feel I've made. Listing off her positive traits without being able to think of ANYTHING, AT ALL, that's negative. Really, not good. Not good at all. Seriously convinced that, that was it.. The best girl I'll ever know and I've ruined it all. What the hell?? How do I get rid of that feeling?? Fair few girls I talk to, none of them put a scratch on what she was to me. Completely SCREWED.
GG3 Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 How did you ruin it all? You think it's not fixable?
Author quite.foolish Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 How did you ruin it all? You think it's not fixable? LoL, urm.. Fixable? She'll NEVER look at me again. I wrecked the lot by saying WAY over the top ***** to her, during an argument.. Ended up stalking her. Yep.. Ridiculously ashamed of myself.
Author quite.foolish Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 Loads of people been helping me out a lot on here.. TaraMaiden, GeeGirl, Renard99, Spaniard etc. Things were getting better, today has been a little crumby though. Just wanted to vent and hopefully get another little kick up the backside really HA! I'll be alright.
Balzac Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 You've owned it. Now your task is to forgive yourself. That's your first step to moving on. We cannot change what we don't acknowledge so you're on the path to making sure you don't repeat. Nothing about overcoming loss and regret is easy. Hang in there.
geegirl Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 It's done, QB. There will be bad days and good days and it comes in waves. Let them come, feel it and it will pass. It's hard to cope with regret. It leaves you crippled and hopeless because there isn't a thing you can do to rectify it. But what comes from it is the ability to now be self-aware and make better choices and to learn from those lessons. You can't fix what happened but you can fix what's ahead of you.
terlislee Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 Keep looking ahead, not back. It's a long process and there will be ups and downs, but don't worry one day you will stop idolizing her and realize you couldn't care less what she thinks I can guarantee that. I had to deal with similar regrets after my first relationship ended, it drove me pretty crazy too and it took me the longest time to come to terms with it all. You actually sound much better than when you first came here so keep that up, one day at a time
Bumaga vsyo sterpit Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Why are you still feeling this way man? Haven't you been getting with other girls lately?
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