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I know it's cliche but I want to have an objective opinion on how the situation is now.

So.. We've been together for about 7 months almost and we had a lot of words because we are different from each other but she loved me and I loved her (still do..). But I was a bit selfish during the relation and I almost just cared my problems.. So now she broke up 3 weeks ago and at first I was a bit relieved and get on with my life.. and she told me she was crying almost every night and we still texted as if we were together.. than I wanted to talk that was last friday (so 2 weeks after break up) and we kissed again and cuddled and I told her I loved her and she said she loved me, and also mentioned that if she walks true my door I will never see her again and it's over for always.. So I accepted it but she kept on sending messages and suddenly she began becominging angry because I tried my best to get her back (also being crying and really felt depressed, you know..) and yesterday I asked her to talk one more time and she didn't wants to but she did.. She said it's over and that we never coming back together again.. she also said she still felt something for me but it's all, also that she needed some rest and that she would contact me again and that I will find a new girl and she a new boy (what definitely hurts, because I want her..). So now I deleted my facebook and get some new clothes to impress on her (if she ever would notice).. I really feel down in moments and sometimes I feel strong to get her back (or first getting my life back on track). I really feel shame because I was so selfish but I'm trying to get a new lifestyle so she would notice somehow and come back to me again.. Could she fall in love with me again after she said 'never again'.. Or should I just get my life back on track and hope for a better future with someone else? I don't know where I could be in couple of months and I hope she still stays single till she contacts me again except if I contact her first.. I have exams this month and it's really ripping me apart.. And sorry if my english is bad..

 

Now she just started sending again.. She talks very rough to me

 

I also said to her that I am afraid of losing her for good (even as a friend), and she just replied 'yes, that's correct'..

 

She says that she can't give me another chance to make it up with her and I told her that I still love her but that I won't break my promise to let her go.. than she said 'I rather don't text anymore', a bit later she replied again and says 'You let me go for good or you never hear from me again' but than again a bit later she says that I could send tonight once more.. Could she also playing with me? :s

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Always the same.... and always the same reply.

Go No Contact.

She is throwing you 'breadcrumbs'.

 

Read the "All-New Caliguy No Contact Guide!" link in my signature.

 

She's dangling you on a string.

 

Cut the cord, go No Contact, stay No Contact.

It's |The Only Way.

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Always the same.... and always the same reply.

Go No Contact.

She is throwing you 'breadcrumbs'.

 

Read the "All-New Caliguy No Contact Guide!" link in my signature.

 

She's dangling you on a string.

 

Cut the cord, go No Contact, stay No Contact.

It's |The Only Way.

 

This is the best I've read today.. I wanted that someone could show me what to do in an objective way and you did that to me.. I believe in destiny so if it's meant to be than it is.. but what do you think about it for the future?

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There is no 'Future'.

There is only today, and this is what you must live for.

 

Be happy in this moment.

 

The 'Future' will take care of itself.....

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There is no 'Future'.

There is only today, and this is what you must live for.

 

Be happy in this moment.

 

The 'Future' will take care of itself.....

 

Phrase of tomorrowland 'Yesterday is history, today is a gift, tomorrow is a mysterie'.

 

And how about the memories, the sad moments..

 

ps.: You did really opened my eyes.. You must become a love guru seriously.. The NC I didn't like but in the way you write it it came clear and yes I don't have to think bout tomorrow.. I live today!

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And I started NC and now she wants to talk to me.. it's just like she's the one that can't let go :s

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And I started NC and now she wants to talk to me.. it's just like she's the one that can't let go :s

 

She is trying to assuage her own guilt...at YOUR expense.

 

She gets to feel better...and YOU get to feel worse.

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And I started NC and now she wants to talk to me.. it's just like she's the one that can't let go :s

 

Please, Please PLEASE!

 

 

Resist all and every single attempt on her part to contact you.

It's hard but completely necessary.

You block her number on your 'phone, you delete it, block emails and every way she can get in touch with you.

Honestly, it seems extreme, but it will finally get through to her:

She has no rights any more, to tear your heart to shreds.....

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But she doesn't need to feel guilty because it was me, who didn't do my best in the relationship. And I went for a drink with my friend and we came to the conclusion "It's no matter how hard you can hit, it's a matter you can get hit, and keep moving forward! And that's how winning is done!' And it really helped me!! I feel strong and confident now.

 

I just would like to know about what she has been thinking.. I'm curious but I don't let her notice..

 

I don't feel bad, just wanna be in control of myself and her eventually

And I'll continue NC, I'll keep this thing up to date and tell you what happens next.

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Do you know what I've been thinking?

 

No.

 

Does it matter?

 

No.

 

Same with her.

 

It doesn't matter what she's been thinking.

What matters is that you handle this properly.

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You're right!

 

I do have the feeling my head is thinking clearly again! I don't feel sad, I just think in a positive way about everything. My exams are also a good help to get some new thoughts and goals!

 

I also must ask you.. Do you have studied relations and **** or have you life-experience? Or could you be just really objective about things? You helped me good by the way!! Thanks

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I know I must have stayed with the NC but I failed, she wanted to talk and I want her to..

 

I've send yesterday and today 4 messages which she didn't replied and now I've send again and she replied "Leave me alone, I'm gonna live my life without you" than I said "you haven't got any respect for me at all?" than she "No you don't have any respect for me because you didn't leave me alone" than bla bla bla bla her last message "You leave me alone or you'll never get me back" .. And than I realized.. She ****ed my mind.. and it hurts.. And now NC for good..

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I know I must have stayed with the NC but I failed, she wanted to talk and I want her to..

 

I've send yesterday and today 4 messages which she didn't replied and now I've send again and she replied "Leave me alone, I'm gonna live my life without you" than I said "you haven't got any respect for me at all?" than she "No you don't have any respect for me because you didn't leave me alone" than bla bla bla bla her last message "You leave me alone or you'll never get me back" .. And than I realized.. She ****ed my mind.. and it hurts.. And now NC for good..

 

I'm sorry, but you behaved like an idiot.

You deserved what she gave you.

 

Get the message - leave her alone, go No Contact, and move on.

 

There is nothing left here, for you, but to begin living your life in freedom.

 

Quit beating the dead horse.

All you'll get is a whole load of flies.

 

Ugh.

Do it.

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I don't think I deserve it.. I was really putting effort towards her to make it up what I didn't do in the relation!

 

But now I feel angry and I think she will contact me again.. but I can't fall for it a second/third/fourth time (lost track of it)!! I don't know!!

 

I do feel strong and confident, but I'm still afraid to walk into her on the street (she lives around the corner), I've seen her 3 days ago when she still texted me and I felt stress.. Idk.. Now NC fo sure and talk to some new people will help probably

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No, you DID deserve it.

you asked for help here. We all told you - No Contact!

You agreed, it was the best thing you had been told.

 

Yet you still decided to go against all good advice - and look what happened.

 

What you were doing was trying to get 'closure'. In other words, get her to acknowledge her bad behaviour and apologise.

 

This - Will - Never - Happen.

 

She feels justified, she believes she was right, and she has disrespected you, because you disrespected her.

 

She dumped you, and wanted nothing more to do with you.

But - contrary to good advice - you kept pestering her, and insisting.

 

Now?

Now you know for sure.

 

Read post #8 again.

And do as it says.

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That's harsh but maybe it's true.. she threw me breadcrumbs.. But still why would she say she has been thinking.. I don't know in which way but why.. is it part of the whole game?? :s

 

You're right.. It's over I'm going to chat with some girls before her (i wanted them as ****buddy never succeeded but it's new social contact)

 

I do thank you and I still handled it better than previous breaks up (don't imagine how it could be if this was better)

 

NC, NC, NC, NC everything is gone from her must stay strong!!

 

ps.: you still didn't mentioned where you got this experience

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