portableversion Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 So this happens every so often, and it confused me very much. The last time it happened was the thrusday before new years. I was asleep and did not hear my phone ring and so she showed up and woke me up. Me i was very happy to see her cause i miss her and never wanted the divorce so naturally i let her in. She said i just wanted to see how you are doing. I said i guess im ok. She said well you sadi some stuff when the big guy was over here and it upset him. I said i know what you are talking about and hes upset over our divorce and stuff like this is gonna pop up once in awhile hes upset cause i told him my friends are still married and are busy and dont come over here. This is a fact of life and it upsets him because he needs to talk more about our situation to deal with it. He does not like it, but i cant be tiptoeing around the real world here. I told him the truth and ive mentioned it to my counselors. They say i handled it fine. She said well ok then so you are ok then. I said dont worry about me, why dont you call your boyfriend and make sure hes ok? You divorced me and have him now go worry about him and make sure hes ok. IM alive and havent killed myself so im ok right. But for real im trying to get to a situation where i can carry the knowledge that my family is destroyed and my soulmate is in love with someone else and with all that baggage im supposed to smile and say my life is great, this is what i worked 17 yrs for. SHe said i want a hug, i said no you dont get to hug me you divorced me and have your boyfrind, go hug him, and besides isnt this disrespectful to him. she said oh your making to much of it, ive told you its not that serious. I said bs if i spent over 2grand to goto alaska to shag my lover you bet it be serious as a heart attack. SHe said it s not that serious at all. I said what ever. She said give me a hug i want a hug, i said no. She got up and moved towards me. I ran to my bathroom and tried to barricade myself inthere. We played tug of war with the door. I said you divorced me, you can thug me, she said stop it and hug me, finally she got a crack inthe door and stuck her hand in there and said your gonna hurt me you dont want to do that, and i said no i dont. I opened the door and we gave each other a big hug. She rested her head on my shoulder. It felt good ive wanted to hug her for so long, i love her and miss her and hate this divorce, but its so weird her man is here from leave at that time. We go back to the living room and i see my phone and see my sponser was trying to call me. I said man its my sponsor he knows i need help. I said here where you called. She asked why didnt you answer the phone , i said well i was asleep but other than that i figure i need to ignore your calls. you have a boyfriend and i have too many strong feelings for you so i need to ignore you to move on. She looked so hurt like i had said the most horrible thing to her. She said well i gotta go home now, i sadi ok good bye and she said nothing and left, looking all down and out. That saturday i wanted to talk to the boys but they were at her foks house and she wanted to talk to me about her new office. We were on the phone for over a half hour. It was a nice conversation and i liked it but was tormenting casue i knew she was going to be with him for sure. SO anybody out there know what this is all about. What is she doing and what does she want. Me id love it if we could get back together. Once again what is going on. Is she playing me for a fool or is it the case i perhaps have a shot. This si the latest of a whole series of unannounced visits and odd conversations and invtes to go hang out with her late at night.
TaraMaiden Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 I'm so sorry - you need to copy and paste, and break this post up into manageable paragraphs. I just read the same line three times, and my eyes hurt. Sorry..... 1
Author portableversion Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 (edited) So this happens every so often, and it confused me very much. The last time it happened was the thrusday before new years. I was asleep and did not hear my phone ring and so she showed up and woke me up. Me i was very happy to see her cause i miss her and never wanted the divorce so naturally i let her in. She said i just wanted to see how you are doing. I said i guess im ok. She said well you said some stuff when the big guy was over here and it upset him. I said i know what you are talking about and hes upset over our divorce and stuff like this is gonna pop up once in awhile hes upset cause i told him my friends are still married and are busy and dont come over here. This is a fact of life and it upsets him because he needs to talk more about our situation to deal with it. He does not like it, but i cant be tiptoeing around the real world here. I told him the truth and ive mentioned it to my counselors. They say i handled it fine. She said well ok then so you are ok then. I said dont worry about me, why dont you call your boyfriend and make sure hes ok? You divorced me and have him now go worry about him and make sure hes ok. IM alive and havent killed myself so im ok right. But for real im trying to get to a situation where i can carry the knowledge that my family is destroyed and my soulmate is in love with someone else and with all that baggage im supposed to smile and say my life is great, this is what i worked 17 yrs for. SHe said i want a hug, i said no you dont get to hug me you divorced me and have your boyfrind, go hug him, and besides isnt this disrespectful to him. she said oh your making to much of it, ive told you its not that serious. I said bs if i spent over 2grand to goto alaska to shag my lover you bet it be serious as a heart attack. SHe said it s not that serious at all. I said what ever. She said give me a hug i want a hug, i said no. She got up and moved towards me. I ran to my bathroom and tried to barricade myself inthere. We played tug of war with the door. I said you divorced me, you cant hug me, she said stop it and hug me, finally she got a crack in the door and stuck her hand in there and said your gonna hurt me you dont want to do that, and i said no i dont. I opened the door and we gave each other a big hug. She rested her head on my shoulder. It felt good ive wanted to hug her for so long, i love her and miss her and hate this divorce, but its so weird her man is here from leave at that time. We go back to the living room and i see my phone and see my sponser was trying to call me. I said man its my sponsor he knows i need help. I said here's where you called. She asked why didnt you answer the phone , i said well i was asleep but other than that i figure i need to ignore your calls. you have a boyfriend and i have too many strong feelings for you so i need to ignore you to move on. She looked so hurt like i had said the most horrible thing to her. She said well i gotta go home now, i said ok good bye and she said nothing and left, looking all down and out. That saturday i wanted to talk to the boys but they were at her folks house and she wanted to talk to me about her new office. We were on the phone for over a half hour. It was a nice conversation and i liked it but was tormenting casue i knew she was going to be with him for sure. SO anybody out there know what this is all about. What is she doing and what does she want. Me id love it if we could get back together. Once again what is going on. Is she playing me for a fool or is it the case i perhaps have a shot. This is the latest of a whole series of unannounced visits and odd conversations and invites to go hang out with her late at night, though that has not happened in awhile. this is an attempt at repost to break this up into paragraphs Edited January 6, 2013 by portableversion need paragraphs
TaraMaiden Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 Read the Caliguy No Contact Guide in my signature (link). It explains what breadcrumbs are, and why they try to remain friends/want a hug. It's all designed to make them feel better and less guilty. It's not for your benefit. It's for theirs. And your ex is trying it on, in spades. 1
Author portableversion Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 So this happens every so often, and it confused me very much. The last time it happened was the thrusday before new years. I was asleep and did not hear my phone ring and so she showed up and woke me up. Me i was very happy to see her cause i miss her and never wanted the divorce so naturally i let her in. She said i just wanted to see how you are doing. I said i guess im ok. She said well you sadi some stuff when the big guy was over here and it upset him. I said i know what you are talking about and hes upset over our divorce and stuff like this is gonna pop up once in awhile hes upset cause i told him my friends are still married and are busy and dont come over here. This is a fact of life and it upsets him because he needs to talk more about our situation to deal with it He does not like it, but i cant be tiptoeing around the real world here. I told him the truth and ive mentioned it to my counselors. They say i handled it fine. She said well ok then so you are ok then. I said dont worry about me, why dont you call your boyfriend and make sure hes ok? You divorced me and have him now go worry about him and make sure hes ok IM alive and havent killed myself so im ok right. But for real im trying to get to a situation where i can carry the knowledge that my family is destroyed and my soulmate is in love with someone else and with all that baggage im supposed to smile and say my life is great, this is what i worked 17 yrs for. SHe said i want a hug, i said no you dont get to hug me you divorced me and have your boyfrind, go hug him, and besides isnt this disrespectful to him? She said oh your she making to much of it, ive told you its not that serious. I said bs if i spent over 2grand to goto alaska to shag my lover you bet it be serious as a heart attack. SHe said it s not that serious at all. I said what ever. She said give me a hug i want a hug, i said no. She got up and moved towards me. I ran to my bathroom and tried to barricade myself inthere. We played tug of war with the door. I said you divorced me, you cant hug me, she said stop it and hug me, finally she got a crack inthe door and stuck her hand in there and said your gonna hurt me you dont want to do that, and i said no i dont. I opened the door and we gave each other a big hug. She rested her head on my shoulder. It felt good ive wanted to hug her for so long, i love her and miss her and hate this divorce, but its so weird her man is here from leave at that time. We go back to the living room and i see my phone and see my sponser was trying to call me. I said man its my sponsor he knows i need help. I said heres where you called. She asked why didnt you answer the phone , i said well i was asleep but other than that i figure i need to ignore your calls. you have a boyfriend and i have too many strong feelings for you so i need to ignore you to move on, you will have to leave a message so i can see if i want to talk. She looked so hurt like i had said the most horrible thing to her. She said well i gotta go home now, i said ok good bye and she said nothing and left, looking all down and out. That saturday i wanted to talk to the boys but they were at her folks' house and she wanted to talk to me about her new office. We were on the phone for over a half hour. It was a nice conversation and i liked it but was tormenting cause i knew she was going to be with him for sure. SO anybody out there know what this is all about. What is she doing and what does she want. Me id love it if we could get back together. Is she playing me for a fool or is it the case i perhaps have a shot, someday if i do this correctly. This is the latest of a whole series of unannounced visits and odd conversations and invites to go hang out with her late at night, though since thanxgiving i havent gone over there at night.
Author portableversion Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 ok cut and paste did not do ****
Author portableversion Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 it looks like it did get kinda broke up a bit i hope that helps, oh geez i got a college degree and never ever got around to taking a typing class, waht a pain, the indentations are on the wrong side now but also since the divorce she has seduced me twice. We had a very hasty divorce moved out june 2nd divorced on aug 7th
TaraMaiden Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 So this happens every so often, and it confused me very much. The last time it happened was the thrusday before new years. I was asleep and did not hear my phone ring and so she showed up and woke me up. Me i was very happy to see her cause i miss her and never wanted the divorce so naturally i let her in . She said i just wanted to see how you are doing. I said i guess im ok. She said well you sadi some stuff when the big guy was over here and it upset him. I said i know what you are talking about and hes upset over our divorce and, stuff like this is gonna pop up once in awhile.... hes upset cause i told him my friends are still married and are busy and dont come over here. This is a fact of life and it upsets him because he needs to talk more about our situation to deal with it He does not like it, but i cant be tiptoeing around the real world here. I told him the truth and ive mentioned it to my counselors. They say i handled it fine. She said well ok then so you are ok then. I said dont worry about me, why dont you call your boyfriend and make sure hes ok? You divorced me and have him now go worry about him and make sure hes ok IM alive and havent killed myself so im ok right. But for real im trying to get to a situation where i can carry the knowledge that my family is destroyed and my soulmate is in love with someone else and with all that baggage im supposed to smile and say my life is great, this is what i worked 17 yrs for. SHe said i want a hug, i said no you dont get to hug me you divorced me and have your boyfrind, go hug him, and besides isnt this disrespectful to him? She said oh your she making to much of it, ive told you its not that serious. I said bs if i spent over 2grand to goto alaska to shag my lover you bet it be serious as a heart attack. SHe said it s not that serious at all. I said what ever. She said give me a hug i want a hug, i said no. She got up and moved towards me. I ran to my bathroom and tried to barricade myself inthere. We played tug of war with the door. I said you divorced me, you cant hug me, she said stop it and hug me, finally she got a crack inthe door and stuck her hand in there and said your gonna hurt me you dont want to do that, and i said no i dont. I opened the door and we gave each other a big hug. She rested her head on my shoulder. It felt good ive wanted to hug her for so long, i love her and miss her and hate this divorce, but its so weird her man is here from leave at that time. We go back to the living room and i see my phone and see my sponser was trying to call me. I said man its my sponsor he knows i need help. I said heres where you called. She asked why didnt you answer the phone , i said well i was asleep but other than that i figure i need to ignore your calls. you have a boyfriend and i have too many strong feelings for you so i need to ignore you to move on, you will have to leave a message so i can see if i want to talk. She looked so hurt like i had said the most horrible thing to her. She said well i gotta go home now, i said ok good bye and she said nothing and left, looking all down and out. That saturday i wanted to talk to the boys but they were at her folks' house and she wanted to talk to me about her new office. We were on the phone for over a half hour. It was a nice conversation and i liked it but was tormenting cause i knew she was going to be with him for sure. SO anybody out there know what this is all about. What is she doing and what does she want. Me id love it if we could get back together. Is she playing me for a fool or is it the case i perhaps have a shot, someday if i do this correctly. This is the latest of a whole series of unannounced visits and odd conversations and invites to go hang out with her late at night, though since thanxgiving i havent gone over there at night. Fixed it for you. Now - read my response. it applies more than ever.
user6667 Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 taramaiden has a good point. thanks tara that helped me too
Author portableversion Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 thanx alot for the fix of the paragraphs. Wow it seems to me to be a lot of cruelty going on here. Its been awhile but she used to tell me as well that she misses me and thinks of us getting back together. I finally got to the point where i cant pay any attention to what she says, can only see what she does. I went to another website and found a big conversation on the bread crumbs. So odd its behavior id never get involved with and thus is probably why i dont understand it at all. So it must be the case then that these bread crumb situations are then just a bunch of bs? So if people do end up trying it again, it looks a lot different than these situations? I really have no clue, my ex-wife was the 2nd serious girlfriend i ever had. For me it only seemed natural that after 17yrs together one would want to eventually try it again. My 1st girlfriend wanted me back and we only dated for 7 months and she approached me after nc for 6 months. oh this stinks today is the little guys b'day, the big guy wanted me there i had to tell him i would not be there. SO this bread crumb thing had really messed with my head, im feeling better but i do wonder what are the odds that someday she'll be serious and want to try again. Geez she said it her self it was just the last 3 yrs where she was unhappy, but perhaps it was all bs and lies. I have never ever felt so much pain in my life. Ive never cried like this before, luckily those spells seem to going away.
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