ScreamingTrees Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 What if a person can go for long periods of time without any interest? No smiles, no welcoming glances, no attempts at conversing, nothing. Should he just not worry about it and blindly approach whoever tickles his fancy, rather than wasting long periods of time keeping an eye out for clear signs from those that he is attracted to?
CarrieT Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 Huh? What if a person can go for long periods of time without any interest? Interest in what? Activities? Other people? A significant other? Should he just not worry about it and blindly approach whoever tickles his fancy, rather than wasting long periods of time keeping an eye out for clear signs from those that he is attracted to? I'm assuming that you are pining over someone who is not responding to advances and are debating approaching other girls? What "clear signs" are you looking for?
ThaWholigan Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 He means if a man is getting no interest from any girl, should he not worry about it and approach women without thinking about it, or should he become more analytic about who he approaches and looking for signs etc. Personally, what should be done is a synthesis of both theories, because they are not mutually exclusive from one another.
Author ScreamingTrees Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 Huh? Interest in what? Activities? Other people? A significant other? I'm assuming that you are pining over someone who is not responding to advances and are debating approaching other girls? What "clear signs" are you looking for? I don't pine over anyone, even people I've been attracted to who were obviously into me and showed it through physical come-ons. I just find that those situations have been very rare in my life, and resulted from friendship that seems to be very difficult to find myself in now with the opposite sex. If someone doesn't respond to my advances, although I've rarely "advanced" on someone, I would quickly get them out of my life. I don't know why, I don't treat women as if they're creatures from another planet, but a guy is way more likely to talk to me in a friendly way than a girl, regardless of the social setting. I can imagine myself going up to a girl in a friendly way and it'd be like pulling teeth, doesn't matter what she looks like. I'm going to treat that person like I would a guy who'd be acting like that, and not waste my energy. But it seems to be the general situation. I simply do not see interest. I don't see how you can magically tell that someone's subconsciously interested by how they're looking at you.. Unless there's a conscious effort to signal interest, which I can't say I've ever really picked up on, so it must be ridiculously subtle or nonexistant. Do their eyes twitch in some magical fashion? Is there a twinkle? Are you guys sure it isn't a light source doing that? How is your eye sight that great that you can see that, unless they're standing right in front of you.. When I look at someone, I don't think I look at someone I'm attracted to any differently than someone I'm not attracted to. I don't think any other people do, either, unless they're talking to them and laughing or someone? But the most interacting I do with the opposite sex is honestly in retail/food settings. A smile and a friendly remark or two from someone doing their job is not interest. I haven't really gone out in a long time, but if I went anywhere "social", be it a bar or an interest group, you could rest assured that every girl within close proximity of me would already be completely wrapped up in her own world, talking to someone she already knows from the group or doing whatever it is she's there to do, which is fine, I'm just invisible, unless they're forced to interact, I doubt that they would willingly do so, maybe a "hello" or something, but there'd likely be no real reason for them to talk to me.
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