mezaz42 Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Hi.. First time doin this.. Ive been datin this girl for the past year and a half, im 20, American born Indian and shes 19(met her while studyin in India)... This all took place in India. When i met her i was sort of a flirt, and she was too... but we instantly hit it off and about 2 months after dating we became serious. Thing is she had lots of guy friends before me, and one guy in particular, who she says is her best friend. I never really liked the guy but just so she would be happy i didnt tell her to stop hanging out with him or talking to him at first, as long as she told me wen she would b out with him. Sometimes i would feel weird about the amount of time she spent with him so i did somethin bad, which was start reading her texts btwn him and her. I hated it, he would always cal her baby and sweetheart, text her really late or even call her late at night and talk for hours... sometimes she would even tell me to call later so she could talk to him. Once she was even sleeping at my place and while i was asleep she was on the couch talking to him, and hung up and lied about who it was wen i woke up and asked who she was talking. and he would always be mad if she chose being with me over him even once. Then one day, as i had predicted and told her, he called her up and told her he loved her. (we had been dating for 4months wen he did that) I asked her to stop talking to him but she would always fight and say i dont trust her and that hes her only trustworthy friend and that he was being stupid. Later she did wat i asked and stopped talkin to him, for a while.. Since the begnining shes lied about talking to him.. Even after promising she wouldnt talk to him, i would always find messages from him under different girls names, and she would act angry that i invaded her privacy... but i always had this weird feeling.. and it was always right. If we ever got into fights... there would always be messages from him consoling her, even tho he was the main reason for the fights... but she was always quick to delete anything suspicious b4 i came by. I hated invading her privacy but i always knew when she was hiding something from me.. It really kills me inside... i really loved her.. so many times i protected her... once in my attempt to protect i had to go through a public beating, 50 ppl on the streets beating me because i was tryin to protect her dignity, because the public was misled by the media into a frenzy with her and her sisters and me in the middle..(keeping in mind i was living in the city of Patna located in the backwards state of Bihar india). It kills me that she could forget that incident and many more, just because she believes i am wrong for telling her to stop talking to the guy that she claims is her best friend, and who openly declared he loves her. I just broke up with her yesterday. I found out she was hiding the fact that she was talking to him yet again, even after we both chose to move to delhi to pursue our college degrees together in the same city. I am back in the US for a 1 month vacation, and Shes back in her hometown Patna for the same vacation. And i found out shes been talkin to the guy again. I decided i couldnt take it anymore. So i broke up with her.. But it was over the phone. Its over now... she sent me messages on facebook from her sisters account 15 minutes ago that said i was wrong about her and that she stil loves me and always will, but to respect herself and her rights she couldnt stop talking to him because i told her to. So shes sorry it had to end this way. Its over... But i still feel like im missing the biggest part of my life... and it wasnt even face to face... My first real relationship... Is it right to end like this? did i do the right thing? should i really have broken up with her... or should i just be more open and lenient about this whole thing? Im really sorry this is so long.. i wasnt plannin on writin this much but.. its all just comin out.. if u do read this and reply.. thank you for your time.
movingforward2013 Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 She didn't respect your feelings and your relationship. You did the right thing. Don't second guess yourself.
crashvector Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 She didn't respect your feelings and your relationship. You did the right thing. Don't second guess yourself. this x 1000
graciella27 Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 Don't feel bad, you can find someone much better than her. I think her best friend and her feelings are the same, she loved her best friend more than you. You will get over her for sure...
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