jags2bowl27 Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 When I met the ex on the 15th I gave her a card to give to her sister for her wedding that's taking place in feb. I was supposed to be at it... I wanted to do the right thing, they took care of me, fed me etc for two yrs. I threw in $200.00 for the both of them She just texted me and said "(my name) (my ex) gave me the card you gave to her for me, that was really sweet of you! We all miss you a lot, love (her name)" not gonna lie I cried when I replied..... Kept it short and said I was proud of them and they are going to be great together.... No reply after that.... It's crazy how its come to this... One decision and a whole family that I love along with my girl is taken away from me
mezaz42 Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 i feel u bro i just broke up with my girl yesterday... and all the people that knew me thru her, that loved me as much as i loved them and the love that i had for my girl... all just gone. they all hate me. even tho i had a valid reason, they all are just too good to c it.. it sucks to lose everything just cuz of one decision. 1
Author jags2bowl27 Posted January 5, 2013 Author Posted January 5, 2013 i feel u bro i just broke up with my girl yesterday... and all the people that knew me thru her, that loved me as much as i loved them and the love that i had for my girl... all just gone. they all hate me. even tho i had a valid reason, they all are just too good to c it.. it sucks to lose everything just cuz of one decision. I don't know what is worse, someone making the decision for you and having her family all miss me or have everyone hate me for a decision. Her mom adored me, she won't ever let my ex forget about me lol, it's how she is 1
LostOne1 Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 When I met the ex on the 15th I gave her a card to give to her sister for her wedding that's taking place in feb. I was supposed to be at it... I wanted to do the right thing, they took care of me, fed me etc for two yrs. I threw in $200.00 for the both of them She just texted me and said "(my name) (my ex) gave me the card you gave to her for me, that was really sweet of you! We all miss you a lot, love (her name)" not gonna lie I cried when I replied..... Kept it short and said I was proud of them and they are going to be great together.... No reply after that.... It's crazy how its come to this... One decision and a whole family that I love along with my girl is taken away from me I know that feeling. My ex introduced me to her family and I got along well with all of them. I accepted them all as my family and showed them respect and just had fun hanging with them. Then she BU with me and I lose her and them. I told her she was taking her family away from me too, but she didn't care at all. I have to say what hurt me more was that her family NEVER contacted me. Her brother never once contacted me back or anything. Her sister never said anything either in fact has removed me off FB. It felt like they lied or acted all nice to me just, because I was their sister's BF and not because they liked me as a person. I haven't seen her siblings or I'd tell them politely that I'm not happy they just blocked me out. That they never sat down and said let me help these two or maybe have them sit down or all of us go out and talk. I understand my ex might not want her family or siblings getting involved in the BU, as it's her decision on it. But I know with my family we always have talked it out with everyone if there is a problem to help them out eg. aunt/uncle fight. So I know how you feel man to lose her and then her family. You basically lose a life or a future you had seen and now it's totally disappeared and gone. And all you can do now is look at a new future, because that old one is totally gone for good.
LostOne1 Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 I don't know what is worse, someone making the decision for you and having her family all miss me or have everyone hate me for a decision. Her mom adored me, she won't ever let my ex forget about me lol, it's how she is The problem is the mom can't change the decision. Sure she can talk to her daughter and all, but it probably won't make a huge difference. I mean do you always listen to your parents when they tell you stuff? We usually ignore them LOL. It all has to come from the ex's side.. she has to change her mind. If she doesn't then it is what it is... It's something I learned and I wish I could go back and change. But I can't and all we can do is just let it flow and move on. If things change then they will.. if not then things will go as they are now.
Author jags2bowl27 Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 The problem is the mom can't change the decision. Sure she can talk to her daughter and all, but it probably won't make a huge difference. I mean do you always listen to your parents when they tell you stuff? We usually ignore them LOL. It all has to come from the ex's side.. she has to change her mind. If she doesn't then it is what it is... It's something I learned and I wish I could go back and change. But I can't and all we can do is just let it flow and move on. If things change then they will.. if not then things will go as they are now. Oh believe me, my ex will ignore her mom... her mom will annoy the hell out of her and probably push her further away, its their relationship. I love them though.. A LOT. I know it has to come from her changing her mind, but honestly, how do i ever forget all of this... its my rock bottom point in my life and we both cant even have a normal conversation that doesnt have to do with the BU. I feel like what we had is tarnished and gone, and to go back, it would take a lot of change on her end but she honestly thinks she is doing the right thing.... to the point where she even told me to move on but then of course throws the hope in there. its a mess and idk if i could ever fix it
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