BrighterFuture Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I just posted a thread regarding something me ex did that hurt me again...and I realized that while I was/am upset about it, I didn't cry nearly as much as the other times since the breakup. Each time a new lie would surface I would be upset, but gradually the hurt would last for lesser periods of time. I don't know if this is because i'm getting over it (because it's clear to me that I deserve better) or if i'm getting used to it. Or if there's a difference at all. When I think about the situation I still feel a bit sad and sometimes by heart will sink, but I'm not nearly as devastated as I once was. Maybe this is because I've had the holiday to distance myself...however I'm scared that when I return to school and potentially run into him that reality will come flooding back because I'm not actually over it, but rather just used to it. Thoughts?
Sav Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I'm experiencing the same thing. It hurts but doesn't hurt in a way too. I think there's a thin line here. You are getting used to it and are getting numb to the pain. Personally I don't think we can ever ever get over someone we truly had feelings for. I still think of my ex (together for 4 years broke up for 2.5years) but I realized her having a boyfriend doesn't faze me anymore. I still care for her but in a special non-romantic way. Maybe this is what people call indifference? I don't know. I hope I will feel this way about my recent ex in time to come
MyAngel Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 I don't think that is the indifference stage yet. You still have feelings and emotions - indifference you will feel nothing. I think you are on your way to getting over it and I hope that it continues. It is a strange feeling after so long of being miserable to not cry, not feel like your heart has been torn open. I have good and bad days. Mostly I'm just numb I suppose.
Author BrighterFuture Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 Thanks for your input guys! I'm definitely not over it, but hopefully getting there. I think numb is the right word and the distance has made the whole situation seem kind of surreal. I have 4 more months until my final semester of university is over and I pray that I do not run into my ex or the girl he hurtfully left me for during this time.
Honiebee Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 Just keep holding on to the anger and hurt- you will realise he isnt worth you feeling like this and the feelings will go, they will x
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