Sparky123 Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 My back story extremely summarized. We went out for a total of 9 months, she decided to study abroad for 3 months. I traveled over there to see her and we broke up. We live in a small enough place that I usually see her once a week. I badly want to get back into contact with her and see of she wants to meet up for a coffee like she said she wanted to before she got back. I know this is not the smart choice so I have made this thread on here. What should I do when I get these urges? It kills me to see her around seemingly happy and I just can't forget about her and move on
Mr.White Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Think of all her flaws. Every time my ex comes to my mind like right now I think of all the annoying habits and flaws she had. She always complained and would point out my own flaws. Now that it is over I see how annoying she was. Go out with your friends, have a few drinks, dance and party with girls. Keep yourself busy and accept the fact that she is happy without being with you. The sooner you accept that she is happy, and has moved on with her life the sooner you can move on with your life and become happy yourself. Give yourself time to heal up before you ask to meet up and go for a coffee. Only do so when you are ready to hear about all the fun she is having without you and all the new people (guys) she has been meeting or possibly dating. Meeting with your ex is not something to do because you want to see the person you are still crazy about!
user6667 Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 also, think about how bad you are going to feel later, if you make contact, and it's nice and then she leaves again. thats the loop you need to escape from. be nice to your future self, don't make him be in pain dude. let him escape and get over it
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