SJC2008 Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 (edited) I love people but I have no problems doing things by myself. It amazes when I read stories of rebound girl/guy. There's a thread in the BU section where a guy got dumped after 5 months for the ex (poor guy). Why would you want to be with someone when your heart is somewhere else? Is it for sex? Does it ease the pain?? The last woman I dated was honest to me that she wanted to date around as she didn't know what she wanted becasue she only had one R, a really long one. I didn't realize how much she was hurting untill she invited me over for Chtristmas on our 5th date. How would me being there on Christmas have helped her at all? I may be in the minority but you have to go through the pain to get over it IMO. So do you think that most people can't be alone? I do, look at all the GIGS and the aforementioned. Edited January 5, 2013 by SJC2008 spelling
Treasa Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I agree with you. If you don't grieve after a relationship, they all sort of start to bundle together, and when you do have to face that pain, it's a lot greater, cumulatively speaking. Plus I sometimes just need a break from being with a guy. I love my freedom and not having to tell someone where I'll be, given that I'm pretty impulsive. In a relationship I'm pretty responsible and considerate, but I don't always want to be responsible and considerate. So then I'll just be alone for a while.
carhill Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I doubt there is any realistic way of determining percentages but I can state with certainty that nearly 100% of the married women who utilized me as an emotional receptacle as a younger man told me directly that they couldn't be alone and the few I still know continue to assert that and their actions back up their words. I doubt it's gender-specific but I merely heard it more from women. The amount of single women living alone around here, both by anecdotal observation and by reviewing the census figures of single female householders, bears out historical perspective. There aren't many. YMMV.
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 (edited) I love people but I have no problems doing things by myself. It amazes when I read stories of rebound girl/guy. There's a thread in the BU section where a guy got dumped after 5 months for the ex (poor guy). Why would you want to be with someone when your heart is somewhere else? Is it for sex? Does it ease the pain?? The last woman I dated was honest to me that she wanted to date around as she didn't know what she wanted becasue she only had one R, a really long one. I didn't realize how much she was hurting untill she invited me over for Chtristmas on our 5th date. How would me being there on Christmas have helped her at all? I may be in the minority but you have to go through the pain to get over it IMO. So do you think that most people can't be alone? I do, look at all the GIGS and the aforementioned. Not for me. The rebound helps a lot. I got rejected by this woman I was practically madly in love with a while ago and was able to find another woman after, somehow. She helped a lot. If she had rejected me as well, I'd be in such bad shape right now, I don't even want to think about it. Everybody is different based on their life experiences. For me, breaking up and being dumped has relatively little negative consequences because I know at least I was able to get that woman. But the pain of unrequited love can stick with me for many years. I've even been cheated on and it wasn't nearly as bad. Edited January 5, 2013 by JuneJulySeptember
TheZebra Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I also tend to find from my experiences that the people who can't seem to remain single tend to be women. It's a problem when girls are raised thinking that they always need a prince by their side... that the end goal of life is to end up with a prince. That's really the main message in so many Disney movies. It's no wonder so many women make relationships and marriage a priority when they should be making themselves a priority instead. I don't think I could ever take a rebound guy. When it comes to relationships I'm either alone or I'm all in. None of this in between BS. 1
Author SJC2008 Posted January 5, 2013 Author Posted January 5, 2013 My former roommate was dumped because he kept cheating on her. She wound up with another guy pretty quick, matter of days. She gets dumped and calls my roommate and tells him she'll give him another chance. It blows my mind on two fronts. One that people can find someone that fast and two that they don't even take time to heal. They're in the arms of someone else immediately.
CptSaveAho Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Happens on both side of sexes... Very easy to spot as well
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