Complicated1112 Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I was googling 'no contact' and found a lot of articles about how to win an ex back, how effective nc to get someone you want etc. So, when you try to move on by initiating NC, this could create the opposite result. Especially in A without D-Day. Could anyone think of an alternative route?
SunshineToday Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I think No Contact is the way to go. You will either get what you want or walk away as you started, with something you never had anyhow.
Realist3 Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 No contact seems like an immature mind game to me. Yes, I agree I think it makes your partner want you more, but it is all a game. You have a relationship with this person, no matter what side of the fence you might happen to be. I will say it again, it is an immature solution to a difficult situation.
whichwayisup Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 No contact seems like an immature mind game to me. Yes, I agree I think it makes your partner want you more, but it is all a game. You have a relationship with this person, no matter what side of the fence you might happen to be. I will say it again, it is an immature solution to a difficult situation. I wouldn't call NC a game play if one person wants NC so they can heal and move on. That's putting yourself first and hoping that other person will leave you alone. Guess it depends on circumstances and intent of the NC.
Realist3 Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I wouldn't call NC a game play if one person wants NC so they can heal and move on. That's putting yourself first and hoping that other person will leave you alone. Guess it depends on circumstances and intent of the NC. I can see that point of view.
MissBee Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I was googling 'no contact' and found a lot of articles about how to win an ex back, how effective nc to get someone you want etc. So, when you try to move on by initiating NC, this could create the opposite result. Especially in A without D-Day. Could anyone think of an alternative route? If you're trying to move on NC is the way. Even if your ex wants you back, being NC gives you the distance and space to say "NO" if their situation hasn't changed.
movingon45 Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I was googling 'no contact' and found a lot of articles about how to win an ex back, how effective nc to get someone you want etc. So, when you try to move on by initiating NC, this could create the opposite result. Especially in A without D-Day. Could anyone think of an alternative route? What is A without D-Day? I didn't find it in the list of acronyms. Affair without what?? Thanks. I'm newbie here. 1
movingon45 Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I wouldn't call NC a game play if one person wants NC so they can heal and move on. That's putting yourself first and hoping that other person will leave you alone. Guess it depends on circumstances and intent of the NC. I've been googling NC as well. It seems to be to heal and for some to play a game for wanting the other party to miss him/her.
Catplates Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I was googling 'no contact' and found a lot of articles about how to win an ex back, how effective nc to get someone you want etc. So, when you try to move on by initiating NC, this could create the opposite result. Especially in A without D-Day. Could anyone think of an alternative route? The alternative is to stay in the A. You definitely can't be friends. I think NC after informing the AP is the only way to sucessfully distance oneself successfully for all time If NC is serious, then all the attempts by the ex to reunite will be useless. NC can become a silly "pull you push me dance" but as they say, it requires two to tango. CAt.
skylarblue Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 An alternative route to what? To not using NC? In an effort to accomplish what? There's a difference between ending contact and using it as some kind of tactic. Not everyone has to end contact to end the A. Not everyone want to stay in contact with xAP. Not everyone is the "you not wanting me makes me want you more" type. And not everyone will have an AP who will relentlessly disregard a NC request. Genuine NC is for the person requesting it. If they feel they need to then it's the right way to go. If they don't think it makes sense, they have the option not to do it. I think most find going NC inevitable, and ultimately the best and most successful option though. The good thing about NC is you don't need the other's permission or cooperation (I do think you should inform them) to make it work. You just need the fortitude to implement it and not to respond.
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