Phoe Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 It may sound weird but... I CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY!! About 2 years ago I got into a really depressed state... took me a while to get out of it, and it only happened because I CHOSE to. I decided I was gonna be happy. I was gonna force myself to not be depressed. It seemed so silly and useless at first, but over time I found myself believing it. I was choosing to be happy, and I was becoming happy. Such a simple state of mind made a huge difference 1
FitChick Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Getting a job and having a regular paycheck would do wonders for your self-esteem and dating prospects. At least you seem to have local government resources to help you find that job. Plenty of people would beg to get any job, even if they hated it, because things are that bad now and expected to get worse. Passivity isn't attractive in business nor in dating. Just curious -- did your mother ever work or did she go on benefits as soon as she got pregnant?
Author Ross MwcFan Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 Cool it's a date then Should be March or April I'll let you know. It's mostly changing the negatives for positives - stop saying can't, nothing, never etc. and think in terms of what you can do. Take pride in the things you're good at, learn to accept the things that bother you but that you cannot change (and no getting a girlfriend is not one of them) and list those that make you unhappy but that you can actually do something about. Don't overwhelm yourself then it really will seem impossible, but start leaving your comfort zone one step at a time, never stay in though, you need to keep pushing yourself at least a lttle. It might seem harder thanks to your mental issues, but it's not impossible either and the only way forward for anybody. I am trying to leave my comfort zone, the progress is really slow though. As I'm only able to push myself little by little, anything more is too much for me and I'm just not able to do it.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 It may sound weird but... I CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY!! About 2 years ago I got into a really depressed state... took me a while to get out of it, and it only happened because I CHOSE to. I decided I was gonna be happy. I was gonna force myself to not be depressed. It seemed so silly and useless at first, but over time I found myself believing it. I was choosing to be happy, and I was becoming happy. Such a simple state of mind made a huge difference I wish I could just choose to be happy. I WANT to be happy, but simply deciding that I'm going to be happy doesn't make me happy, it doesn't make the depression go away. I guess I'm just wired totally differently from people who can just choose to be happy. I am working on trying to become happy though and less depressed, but it's extremley difficult.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 Getting a job and having a regular paycheck would do wonders for your self-esteem and dating prospects. At least you seem to have local government resources to help you find that job. Plenty of people would beg to get any job, even if they hated it, because things are that bad now and expected to get worse. Passivity isn't attractive in business nor in dating. Just curious -- did your mother ever work or did she go on benefits as soon as she got pregnant? It depends on the job, whenever I've worked at jobs I didn't like they did nothing for my self esteem. I guess if I worked at a job I enjoyed, then maybe it would do something for my self esteem. I'm finding it incredibly difficult to not be passive, I'm trying to work on it though. My mum was working when she was pregnant. When I was around 5 she damaged her back and was never able to work again.
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