newmoon Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 i just found out today that my (ex) bf - we are on a break and have had NC for 6 days so far - approached another guy about the fact that this other guy tried to kiss me one night last week. i had to push the other guy off me and turn my head away. i told my bf about the attempted kiss/incident b/c this guy has tried this once before, and even more messy, we all work together in a corporate environment and i didn't want the 'other' guy to mention anything before i did. my (ex) bf had asked the guy the last time this happened to leave me alone and asked me to limit contact with the guy to just work, but we didn't listen - the 'other' guy is a close friend of mine and despite his nonsense i do like him (strictly as a friend) and i give him chances to behave outside of work. there is truly zero interest from me for this other guy, but i do know he likes me. perhaps there is a small part of me that likes it and that is why i keep him as a friend. my bf has not yet told me that he approached this other guy again (the other guy told me via text) and i think my (ex) bf is not telling me because he wants to 'test' if this other guy are me are in contact and i find out. so, guys, when you approach another guy about issues like this (hitting on your gf) is it coming from a place of caring for the girl? or is more about your own ego that you would approach another guy on this? my opinion is that it's ego-driven and that a man's pride is hurt, so he goes after the other guy even when he doesn't care too much for the girl. true? also, in this situation, am i wrong for giving chances to my friend? my bf said he had expected (after the first time this happened) that i would delete this guys number and never talk to him again. i said i never agreed to that and hence, never did it, which he called me stupid for and said i share blame for the attempted kiss because i brought it on myself
crude Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Usually it's ego and the constant pressure to "be a man". Men could just as easily be fighting over a parking spot.
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