alexp1289 Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Hey guys my name is Alex and this is my first post on the forums and I just had a few questions that I need some advice on. So to give you a little bit of background I met a girl online and we went on a date. We hit it off really well and everything the first date we went out to dinner (kissed her and hung out for a good while). So she tells me that she really likes me and she wants to date me and she's not ready for any labels just yet but she's not dating anybody else. So that was fine with me and Christmas came around so she went to go visit her family in Canada for Christmas for a week. She wasn't able to text in Canada because of her phone not working up there for some reason or another so she called me about every other day when she had time. I had noticed that she hadn't removed her online profile since we started dating even though we weren't official and it kinda bugs me so I asked her about it and she had a little bit of a fit telling me that I care too much and that I'm too jealous basically I took that as back off and give her space. So when she got back to her home this past Monday I started to back off and just go with the flow and not care as much because it seem to be bothering her. Since I've started to do this everything's been fine and she occasionally asked me why she hasn't heard from me all day and I just try not to be as clingy. I just want to make sure that by doing this I'm not going to be pushing her away. I guess I'm worried that I'm making myself undesirable by not contacting her first and making her wonder what I am up to and having her text me first. I don't do this all the time I've only done it twice so far just to see if it bugs her little bit to know that she's still interested.
Author alexp1289 Posted January 5, 2013 Author Posted January 5, 2013 Just FYI I've been the one texting first all the time since we been dating.
carhill Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Where are you taking her on your date tomorrow night? Welcome to LS
todreaminblue Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I would take down any profile i had active if i was serious about someone its what you do...whther you are official or not you are actually off the meat market...you dotn need the profile it isnt a matter of jealousy its a matter of principle...its honest..deb
Author alexp1289 Posted January 5, 2013 Author Posted January 5, 2013 We've been on a good amount of dates probably 6 I would say over the course of this past December. So everything is going fine there and I do trust her so I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt that she hasn't been going online and talking to other guys because if I assume that that's what she's doing then I'm gonna lose anyways so I think giving her the benefit of the doubt is my best option. I trust somebody until they give me a reason not to trust them but back to my original question do you think that I'm going about the communication and not being clingy the right way as I stated before?
carhill Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I'm showing you how to go about this the right way......getting all wound up about electrons does nothing to promote pressing of flesh. Just keep dating and see how it goes.
todreaminblue Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 We've been on a good amount of dates probably 6 I would say over the course of this past December. So everything is going fine there and I do trust her so I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt that she hasn't been going online and talking to other guys because if I assume that that's what she's doing then I'm gonna lose anyways so I think giving her the benefit of the doubt is my best option. I trust somebody until they give me a reason not to trust them but back to my original question do you think that I'm going about the communication and not being clingy the right way as I stated before? Af far as communication goes it should be fifty fifty .....intitiating and replying.....if it isnt fifty fifty, holding off on texting, to show or help you figure out if she is interested....doesn't really show you are interested, does it.you sort of drop the ball, and wait too see if she picks it up.....not wise..goes both ways not one sided you have to show an equal amount of interest its no good leaving it to guesswork on either side in my opinion that is......best wishes....deb
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