PhillyDude Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I noticed that all the woman I apply to online they are usually shy and reserved and has no idea they are HOT. I never could get into woman who are confident and know they look good. lol Am I the only guy on here who prefer woman who are not that confident?
Fondue Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Trust me, women know when they are and are not attractive. When they say they are ugly and refuse to to acknowledged their attractiveness, they are just fishing for compliments. This is exactly why I very rarely compliment people. I hate people who beg for them. 1
ThaWholigan Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I noticed that all the woman I apply to online they are usually shy and reserved and has no idea they are HOT. I never could get into woman who are confident and know they look good. lol Am I the only guy on here who prefer woman who are not that confident? No, there's a couple others who would concur with your statement. I'm not one of them though .
Author PhillyDude Posted January 5, 2013 Author Posted January 5, 2013 No, there's a couple others who would concur with your statement. I'm not one of them though . I just love shy females with cute faces who don't know they are a under 9 on a scale of 1 to 10:D
todreaminblue Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Trust me, women know when they are and are not attractive. When they say they are ugly and refuse to to acknowledged their attractiveness, they are just fishing for compliments. This is exactly why I very rarely compliment people. I hate people who beg for them. Fact.....women are harder on themselves than a man will ever be. Fact......Other women are harder on a woman than a man will ever be...... Fallacy......the majority of women when they look in the mirror they are thinking i am hot and i know it Fallacy.......women who think they are not beautiful are fishing for compliments..... 1
phineas Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Trust me, women know when they are and are not attractive. When they say they are ugly and refuse to to acknowledged their attractiveness, they are just fishing for compliments. This is exactly why I very rarely compliment people. I hate people who beg for them. yep, this.
veggirl Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 They know if they are attractive. The most likely thing is you think a huge range of women are "hot" so a lot of perhaps just average women are included in that.
carhill Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 IME, the game face and the private space are often very different dynamics. I prefer a woman who occupies a comfortable middle ground. Her world is big enough for me to fit in. That's cool.
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Women know whether or not they can attract men whether or not they believe they are the most beautiful perfect thing on the planet is another thing, many suffer with self-esteem/insecurity issues regardless of their level of beauty, they don't see or accept it. However I've experienced that most women are fairly confident when "getting the man they want" I'm not sure whether that's a completely attraction based thing, but either way they feel like they can get the man they want if they really put forth the effort. They may just be more determined than confident, but it comes off that way. I prefer women who know their attractiveness and accept it but on a realistic level...as they don't let it define who they are as women, I find women who value themselves for other things than looks while still being beautiful or attractive to me very sexy. I don't like when a woman is constantly putting herself down and therefore needs this constant external validation to maintain this level of confidence in her appeal. I like women who are just plain confident, albeit in their looks or who they are, I think most guys prefer a woman who is beautiful but does not realize it, so that she doesn't realize she doesn't need to be with you But personally, I prefer women who are comfortable in their own skin, don't constantly criticize themselves or need joe drunk at the bar drooling at him (of course he needs to be cute or hot) in order to feel good about themselves. If they realize they have beauty that's fine, if they act arrogant, conceited or entitled or their looks or any other quality...big turn-off for me and likely they expect a man to kiss the ground they walk on, which that ain't going to be me, I'm no fool. 2
ThaWholigan Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I just love shy females with cute faces who don't know they are a under 9 on a scale of 1 to 10:D I like girls who don't think about the scale, and are comfortable with how they look while being somewhat modest about it. Happy balance . 4
phineas Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I like women who know their attractive & know that because i'm attractive it takes more than just them being pretty to win me over.
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I noticed that all the woman I apply to online they are usually shy and reserved and has no idea they are HOT. If you believe that woman exists over the age of 24 or so, you can find me a unicorn too.
Treasa Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 It's all rather relative, don't you think? Some girls may find themselves attractive while you wouldn't find them attractive, and vice versa. I have to admit..when I think of what I'm proud of, I DO love my eyes, my voice, my hair.. But even more so, I love the fact that I can competently use a lot of Japanese-style weapons, I love that I know martial arts. I love that I'm a geek who is really good at software, training, video games, and socializing with people. I like that I'm multi-talented. I love my voice. I really do love myself. It took a LOT of work to get to this point. However, I don't throw it in other people's faces. They either think I'm awesome or they don't. If they don't, that's cool, but it's not going to change how I feel about myself. I like confidence and a man who can handle his own ****. I don't like arrogance or insecurity. Shyness is cute.
Aedra Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I noticed that all the woman I apply to online they are usually shy and reserved and has no idea they are HOT. I never could get into woman who are confident and know they look good. lol Am I the only guy on here who prefer woman who are not that confident? Just about every woman knows whether they are deemed attractive by society or not. The problem is....too many of us really hate how we look despite knowing we may be attractive enough. =( The standards of beauty is so high for women, few feel they measure up.
Vercetti Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Naive of sexuality and classy. Lots of girls come off as try hard, don't need to be flashed panties a micro skirt a push up bra licking a beer bottle for me too connect female that can have sex. Takes far more confidence for a lady to dress and act conservative when all her competition is pulling make-up coated stripper moves. One can be reserved and confidant. If anything should question the security of the attention whore types that require immediate positive feedback for any stunt they pull.
sweetkiwi Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Attractiveness has never been that important. Granted if I were less attractive maybe it would have been. Its always been a side note. Not the main act.
EasyHeart Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I think the OP is confusing confidence and arrogance. I don't think anyone likes women (or men) who think they are God's Gift to the opposite sex. On the opposite side of the spectrum, I've dated really beautiful women who are insecure about their looks, and their endless need for validation is even more exhausting than the women who think that they are "all that". I would much prefer to date a conceited woman over an insecure woman, but realistically I would avoid both.
Clockwork Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Honestly, in my experience a woman can easily not know. You have to remember, if we see a mere love handle on them they they think they are shaped like a pear. It magnifies when a woman looks at herself. Believe me, girls from the word "go" are brainwashed in society to be told how to look. The ones who know they are hot usually can't help themselves and it is dripping from their personality which is unattractive to me. I'll take a girl with a borderline ugly duckling syndrome anyday. Girls know a guy is more judgemental on their appearance than vice versa. So it is always in the back of their mind. My wife looks great in a bikini. She did before she had our son and she does after the fact too. She gets insecure about her "mummy tummy" as she calls it. I think she is crazy, and believe me the girl does NOT look like she had a baby no matter what I say. But a girl will always find someone else who has an even hotter body and get self concious. So yeah, deep down all woman have this in them.
sweetkiwi Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I think all PEOPLE have this in them. The issue isn't gender related believe it or not. The virgin I was with sexually honestly saw himself through one of those fun house clown mirrors. He was gorgeous. Sweet eyes, perfect curly hair, beautiful big mouth, manly big hands complete with rough callous', tall, muscles, and a big natural cock. *Disclaimer* only talking about looks in this guys case In his mind all he focused on was that he was a virgin, had pimples (tiny and few), was awkward, and his teeth weren't straight. I would literally try and talk him into the fact that he's hot. I would take him out and parade him around, ask women in front of him if they thought he was hot (unanimous YES). My precious virgin could have been a freaking model. I think he should be. A French Jew, Mmmm so nice. And no matter the praise he received he still thought of himself as ugly. It was sooooo frustrating. Conversely I've been with kinda ugly guys who thought they were the sexist thing on earth. I did NOT pay them a single compliment.
carhill Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 One thing marriage definitely did teach me is that a man can not and will not ever know with any certainty what is in a woman's mind. That said, if a woman spontaneously blushes when given a compliment regarding her appearance, it's reasonable to assume it was felt to be unexpected and affected her emotionally. I've seen this very rarely in life, but enough to form conclusions. I've tested this personally with lovers whom I sincerely enjoyed complimenting when they appear completely naturally, meaning naked and un-made up. So far, no anecdotes to show ignorance of their beauty nor marked emotional response to compliments on it. They either didn't respond emotionally or were unaffected by words of affirmation. I don't mind a woman being that way, aware of how she affects men, but prefer one who doesn't have a large cranium and ego about it. Modesty has an attractive quality all its own. The search continues.
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