lostletters Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Hey guys, So I an 25 and recently my ex girlfriend (also 25) left me after a great 4 year relationship. I have been in several relationships, none for this long, but none were as awesome as this one, and I know that it's the same for her. We met in college where we dated for 2 years, then she went a few states away for graduate school and I had one more year of college left. After my college I moved and got a job in New York and she still had one year of grad school left. This past September, she moved just a couple hours away for more education and we decided to stay together because now we could visit a lot more even though we were still technically LDR. Anyway, after almost two months of her at her new school, she came to visit (we had seen eachother a few times in those 2 months) and said we should go on a break. It kinda blindsided me, but I took it pretty well at first. Two weeks later, she came back to end it and I freaked out a little mostly because she gave no indication of this before asking for a break. Her reasoning was thin and she said she just needs to work on her school and swore there was no one else. Almost 2.5 months later I believe that because there is no indication. Since then, we were in contact for about a month and then I went no contact because I needed to heal. That was late November. The only contact we've had since then was she sent me a letter pretty much saying she just needs to work on her school and started seeing me as part of her family but is not ready for marriage. I then emailed her back out of anger and told her she broke up with me, it's done (I wish I hadn't done that, but she did leave me). Then recently she emailed me a response essentially saying what she did in the first letter. So...I am wondering if anyone has any thoughts on a couple things: 1. Is it possible she's in a new place and just has a lot of emotions going on right now? I experienced that a little when I started my job in a new city and almost ended it myself. I am glad I didn't, but looking back, maybe I should have. 2. Why do I not feel any better about this after 2.5 months? I was ready to give her a ring, but now it seems like everything's gone. 3. Any advice on trying to make it work again without feeling desperate? Thanks so much for the time and I appreciate any advice:)
denxnis Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 There is someone else. Don't blame yourself, long distance rarely ever works out because woman want someone there to comfort them and be there for them more than a few times a month. Think about it, what does she have to gain by cutting ties with you? Almost nothing. It's not like you were smothering her because you were long distance.
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