DazedAndConfused15 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 So I've been friends with this girl for about two years now. We had a little thing about a year ago, but nothing serious at all. We're both in college now, about 800 miles apart. I've always had some feelings for her, but just never really addressed them or thought much of them. Now four days ago, at a New Years party, we got pretty drunk and made out for a few hours. Nothing really progressed from making out because we were in the same room as about 20 other people. The next few days we talked a little more and more and I realized that I definitely had feelings for her. Now this girl is extremely hard to read and doesn't show affection clearly at all. I know this because when we had a thing a year ago, I stopped talking to her because she didn't really show much interest, but she told me that she had feelings for me the whole time. So anyway, I'm the following days after the party, I wasn't sure what to think or what to do. Last night, we went on a double date, but things happened (movie theater malfunction, everyone had to leave the theater) and we ended up dropping her off at her house way earlier than expected. I was very disappointed, because I planned on telling her how I felt and wanted to see her reaction. I ended up telling her how I felt. She basically responded saying "It wouldn't work because we go to school so far apart and we leave in a few weeks." She said she felt really bad, but I assured her I was fine and that she did nothing wrong. She then asked me if we could still be friends and hang out, and I said sure. (I'm not so infatuated that I want to cut all ties if I can't be with her, I actually do want to be friends with her regardless of how she feels) I said I had an alternative, and that was friends with benefits with no strings attached (still really attracted to her, and from her hooking up with me time to time, I figured she was too), and she said she would have no problem with that at all...BUT she had someone waiting for her back at school and wanted to remain somewhat faithful. I'm not really experienced with these sort of rejections, so did I go about this the right way, or did I screw up?
todreaminblue Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 So I've been friends with this girl for about two years now. We had a little thing about a year ago, but nothing serious at all. We're both in college now, about 800 miles apart. I've always had some feelings for her, but just never really addressed them or thought much of them. Now four days ago, at a New Years party, we got pretty drunk and made out for a few hours. Nothing really progressed from making out because we were in the same room as about 20 other people. The next few days we talked a little more and more and I realized that I definitely had feelings for her. Now this girl is extremely hard to read and doesn't show affection clearly at all. I know this because when we had a thing a year ago, I stopped talking to her because she didn't really show much interest, but she told me that she had feelings for me the whole time. So anyway, I'm the following days after the party, I wasn't sure what to think or what to do. Last night, we went on a double date, but things happened (movie theater malfunction, everyone had to leave the theater) and we ended up dropping her off at her house way earlier than expected. I was very disappointed, because I planned on telling her how I felt and wanted to see her reaction. I ended up telling her how I felt. She basically responded saying "It wouldn't work because we go to school so far apart and we leave in a few weeks." She said she felt really bad, but I assured her I was fine and that she did nothing wrong. She then asked me if we could still be friends and hang out, and I said sure. (I'm not so infatuated that I want to cut all ties if I can't be with her, I actually do want to be friends with her regardless of how she feels) I said I had an alternative, and that was friends with benefits with no strings attached (still really attracted to her, and from her hooking up with me time to time, I figured she was too), and she said she would have no problem with that at all...BUT she had someone waiting for her back at school and wanted to remain somewhat faithful. I'm not really experienced with these sort of rejections, so did I go about this the right way, or did I screw up? Please explain SOMEWHAT FAITHFUL......she doesn thave a problem with fwb but wants to remain somewhat faithful...you are either faithful or you arent,eithr you believe in fidelity or you dont.........I dont know , she seems a little confused or she was anxious about rejecting you and gave you a double open ended meaning.......bit of a riddle.......obviously her feelings arent as strong of ryou nwo as they once were....im still trying to get around the somewhat faithful pairing of words...ill let you know when i work that one out..until then i would give her a wide berth and a book on murphy's law as a parting gift...its a lot easier to read...doesnt use pairings as somewhat faithful...........deb
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