nit309 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 My Ex-girlfriend recently contacted me after nearly 6 years. We were going out in our early teens (we were 13 then) and I called things off for the most silliest of reasons. I admit, I was very immature and selfish back then and I was very focused on going to a good university. Both of us had a hard time after breaking up and definitely she suffered the most. Now back to the present; She texted me and I replied. The conversation built up and she called me and spoke with me for over 2 hours. We had an excellent chat and we relived our friendship days just before we started going out (We were good friends before though it was only for about a couple of months). Both of us were glad that this conversation took place (I felt it was like a clear-the-air talk, as she asked many questions to which she wanted answers for). She said that she was glad that she could get many answers and was constantly laughing during the whole conversation. She also asked me whether I had moved on and as I had, I replied yes. She then said that she was going out with her cousin's best friend and asked about me. I hadn't gone out with anyone after her but for the last few weeks, I've been having a crush on a girl from my class which I mentioned. She wished me good luck. I thought everything was fine now after such a hard time until she said that we should hang out the next time I came back home (I'm studying in a college in another city). I just said ok and tried to change the topic when she said that we should hang out a couple more times. I said that I would call her the next time I came back home to change the topic (I had also mentioned earlier during the conversation that I would be back by the end of the month). She also started chatting about what kind of qualities that she expects in a guy and asked me what I would look in a girl and asked me what made me like the girl on whom I have a crush. I just mumbled something to change the topic again. Now these last few topics (hanging out, qualities) have confused me - I feel that I could still have feelings for her and I'm not sure that I've moved on. I couldn't focus in class today nor I could sleep properly. Though I think that she wants to be friends, I'm not sure I can hang out whenever possible. I don't know how I can tell her that. I just want her to be happy after all that she's gone through. Also a common friend mentioned today that her life has been turbulent for the past few years because of her career choices and that she's been trying to figure out where it went wrong. So, I want to know whether she's showing any signs of wanting to get back together (could be wishful thinking/overthinking on my part). If not, can you suggest me any ideas as to how I can avoid hanging out with her without hurting her. I care for her and I want her to be happy irrespective of what happens.
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