Kozmuss Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I'm going to start from the beginning, I'm 16 and back in summer I began going to campouts and parties (where we just get drunk basically) so anyway, the first one I went to I met a load of girls I'd never met before, one of which the was the girl I like now (at this point I just realised how pretty she was). As the night progressed I'd just finished a bottle of whiskey... Silly idea I know, then this girl that had rejected me in a relationship like 3 years before (by this time i was completely done with her though) and she just jumped on me... Then as I was so drunk we did things (things I regret) this repeated for the next couple of campouts, this is where I started having feelings for the girl I talked about earlier, but everytime we began talking, the other girl just jumped on me. Until one campout, the girl I didn't like was not there, so I started talking to the girl I actually had a crush on, one thing lead to another and we began to kiss, (however she made it clear to me that's all we'd do, I think I respected that though, she wasn't slutty) we then had possibly the most ****ed up night, my mate hit me in the back of the head when I was making out with her and I made her bleed, then after all of it I was known as 'a rapist'. Then this girl I had met (who I was strictly friends with) began talking to me and stuff, then I admitted to liking the girl I had gotten with... I said I was going to confess my feelings for her at the next campout, then after that the girl i liked started being quite awkward with me... Then at the campout I had drunk a little too much, I literally blacked out, when I had came back she was talking to this other boy, but nothing happened. Then a few months later there was a house party (some time in like October) and then I decided I was going to tell her. But then she avoided me the whole night and then got with this random guy who was really attractive... Obviously I didn't take it well, I drunk alot of alcohol and then that girl I got with at the campouts jumped on me again, I didn't say no again... :L then the day after I just asked the girl I liked if she was interested in this guy and she said it was strictly a one night stand and that she doesn't like anyone, or doesn't want a relationship and is happy this way, she said she didn't like being interested in someone like that. Then after that there was another house party and I thought I'd just act casual around her and not do anything, but then she just walked up to me (I didn't say anything) and said she wasn't interested... It hurt me alot... Then the girl I had gotten with at the campouts, yes again, I got with her (I do regret every time) and then for a few weeks I just felt so angry at myself for letting it happen to me... Then suddenly I hear this rumour that this girl I was strictly friends with who I told that I like the other girl, that I was trying to break her and her bf up so I could get with her... Which wasn't true... I had to convince everyone and even the girl I liked it wasn't true... My mate (a boy) and I were talking about it and I decided to tell him I liked the girl and not the girl I was friends with... Because he's a lad he said that he'd help me with this, he started asking the girl about me and why we wouldn't work, he said she saw me as just a friend but seemed to get frustrated as she couldn't find that many reasons why not... She them said something like that it seemed I was trying to work my way around the group... She thinks I'm a manwhore but I'm not... So that's it for now... I'm so confused and bleugh I don't want to give up on her... I like her so much but I get the impression she is trying not to like me.... What can I do?
KungFuJoe Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I'll tell you what to do. Learn how to form a paragraph.
Author Kozmuss Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 To be honest with you, I didn't think it would be this long.
KungFuJoe Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 You can't edit it...I would suggest copying and pasting it somewhere and putting into legible paragraphs and just reply to the thread. or asking a mod to correct it for you.
pteromom Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 She thinks you are a manwhore, because you kinda are. Look at what you wrote - you consistently sleep with this friend of yours who you don't even like much at every party. You consistently get drunk and do stupid crap you regret. You tell her you like her, but then you go and sleep with your friend again. If I was her, I wouldn't want to get mixed up with you either. Look - at some point, you need to take control of your actions and "man up". You don't want to sleep with this friend anymore? STOP DOING IT! You get drunk and black out and make stupid choices? Quit drinking (or drinking to the point you get drunk anyway). If you want to win this girl's affection, you need to change the way you do things and show her that you are a guy with integrity who truly does like her and is going to pursue HER instead of sleeping with other people. Still no guarantees, of course. She may truly just not want a relationship. But making changes will be good for you no matter what she does.
pteromom Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Well - what are you going to tell her exactly? That you like her? Sure... you can tell her that, but I think she already knows that. I think the best thing to do would be to show her you are interested by not sleeping with other people.
Author Kozmuss Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 Well yes... Obviously haha, I'm trying to make her feel less uncomfortable around me and then tell her that I am sorry about all the things I did and that, I'm not the guy she thinks I am
clia Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 She has been quite clear that she isn't interested in you. Exhibit A: Then at the campout I had drunk a little too much, I literally blacked out, when I had came back she was talking to this other boy, but nothing happened. Exhibit B: Then a few months later there was a house party (some time in like October) and then I decided I was going to tell her. But then she avoided me the whole night and then got with this random guy who was really attractive... Exhibit C: then the day after I just asked the girl I liked if she was interested in this guy and she said it was strictly a one night stand and that she doesn't like anyone, or doesn't want a relationship and is happy this way, she said she didn't like being interested in someone like that. Exhibit D: Then after that there was another house party and I thought I'd just act casual around her and not do anything, but then she just walked up to me (I didn't say anything) and said she wasn't interested... Exhibit E: Because he's a lad he said that he'd help me with this, he started asking the girl about me and why we wouldn't work, he said she saw me as just a friend but seemed to get frustrated as she couldn't find that many reasons why not... She them said something like that it seemed I was trying to work my way around the group...She thinks I'm a manwhore but I'm not... You sure sound like a manwhore to me. Maybe at 16 you should consider not getting blackout drunk and making out with / sleeping with girls you don't like. That's not attractive behavior at all. What can I do? I don't think you can do anything. The girl you like does not seem to be interested in you. Maybe you can repair it if you stop sleeping with other girls in the group and getting blackout drunk. Then again, maybe not.
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