Don't Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I am curious. After certain amount of NC your ex gf contacts you just to say hi etc... you know casual talk. What are the certain signals to look for? I mean not everybody will say sorry and jump into your arms but there are certain tips right? Do you ignore them or answer? Do you ask them for a coffee or something to catch up? Thank you.
na49 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I think that once it's over, it's pretty much over unless they come begging for you to come back. I've got plenty of bread crumbs, didn't respond to any of them. Got more bread crumbs after. Most of the time your ex just wants to be friends. If the relationship wasn't abusive, and your ex doesn't "hate" you, they won't forget about you. After not hearing from you for a while, they'll want to know what you've been up to and if you want to be friends. Could be to ease their guilt. Could be another reason that I don't know about. Then it's on you to decide if you can handle being their friend or need more time to get over them.
Quest4_TheLost Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 You can read all over the internet the certain signs, tone in voice even body language. I don't trust any of it. I've seen people strait out say they regret what they have done or miss the person but still not move forward to try to patch up a relationship. Your best bet is NOT to look for signs and read into things beyond them actually stating they would like a second chance. Even then if they say it but don't actually start beginning to repair the relationship, its a lost cause. Actions speak louder then words but they should be real actions, not signs and signals. Now the real actions I speak of are contacting you more often, scheduling time to hang out, and following through. Them showing general intrest in what your up to on a regular basis and showing that they care about you. At any point if their actions contradict their words without a genuine reason is a redflag! Like if you schedule to hang out and somthing comes up and they cancel on you. Sure life will take the better of us in an unpredicatable way. If somthing like this continued to happen where the person is full of excuses and not following through with things. Huge red flag! Same as contacting you very seldomly with excuses they're just to busy. No one is to busy to drop you a phone call or a txt if they are genuinly interested you. In the beginning they prob won't contact you as often as your just beginning to repair things. Your best bet is to follow your gut! If you feel things are headed toward a good place proceed but with caution. If you feel things are not headed in the right direction or somthing just feels wrong. Hit the breaks! I find my gut is usually right. I hope this helps
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