chippy7 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 It all started 12 months ago when i needed to get some physio done on my back. My physiotherapist was a gorgeous girl who was my age and we seemed to get on like a house on fire. I developed an instance crush on her which i later found out that she felt similar but not as strong as she had a boyfriend at the time. I added her on Facebook (childish i know) but i just wanted to somehow let her know i was interested. The next 12 months went by without much contact just a quick chat here and there but nothing to give me the idea she was interested. In September last year (2012) i finally found the courage to ask her out to which she replied she had been waiting a long time for me to ask that. She turned out to be the amazing girl i had hoped she was and i grew more and more attached to her every time we talked or caught up and we seemed to be cruising along awesome until she had to go back home interstate for a friends wedding 5-6 weeks ago. When she came back she was incredibly distant, stand offish and refused to be intimate with me. Turns out that the reason she moved to Melbourne from the Gold Coast 2 years ago was to get away from a boyfriend (not the one she was with when she was my physio) of 10 years she broke up with because he treated her bad and the wedding she went to was his sisters wedding. To her credit she was open and honest about this situation to me and told me that he tried hooking up with her but couldn't do it because she liked me to much. He became very jealous and tried to win her back and she was falling for it. He flew to Melbourne to win her back and she gave in but we continued to talk right up to Christmas day last week to which she was telling me she was unsure she wanted to get into a relationship at all and continued to tell me how much she liked me and enjoyed spending time with me. She was actually going away over new years eve with her ex and 6 mutual friends simply because she wanted to go away over new years and on Christmas day she told me that she would call me when she got back to just let me know how things turned out whether good or bad. Since then i haven't heard from her and i noticed 2 days ago that her name disappeared off my chat list on Facebook so i had a look at her wall and she had deleted me from Facebook which really drove a dagger into my heart. I know this sounds stupid because I've really only known her for 3-4 months and can't compete with 10 years but she really is an amazing girl. I haven't tried contacting her either because i don't want to look needy or clingy or get hurt anymore. I was hoping on getting some advice/ help on the situation as i feel used and heartbroken as if we were the ones who were together for 10 years. Am i doing the right thing? Should i just forget about her? Should i pursue her myself? or have i just been played?? Any advice would be appreciated!
pteromom Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I don't think you were used. I think she was confused about her ex and was looking for happiness with you, but ended up choosing him. It happens. You can either just forget it and move on, or try to contact her and see if you can get her to admit she's with him in the name of closure. But if she hasn't called you and deleted you off her FB, yeh, she's gone.
HARPER100 Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I'm sure she didn't plan for things to go the way they have, sometimes **** like this just happens. For what it's worth I think you've done the right thing by not contacting her. This is all on her - you've done nothing wrong and she obviously knows how much you like her so she should have the decency to contact you and explain. Start getting over her now, no contact. And if she does come back seriously ask your self if you want to be with someone who treats you like this.
Author chippy7 Posted January 5, 2013 Author Posted January 5, 2013 Its just a really tough situation to be in. After her ex came to town to win her back she came over to my place a few days after to tell me that they were going to try things and see how things worked out. To which she gave me the old can we still hang out as friends which i said i couldn't because I'm attracted to her and i couldn't watch her go back to a guy who treated her like s**t, but said she really would like to keep some form of friendly contact which i said was ok. Then deletes me off Facebook and doesn't even talk to me. I remember the first time she told me about her ex she got so angry about the way he treated her (he was possessive and a bully) and couldn't believe she let him do it for so long. Then ends up falling back into his arms. Why do girls always do that? I just hate the feelings of frustration,confusion and anger that take turns of going through your body.
Chi townD Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 It all started 12 months ago when i needed to get some physio done on my back. My physiotherapist was a gorgeous girl who was my age and we seemed to get on like a house on fire. I developed an instance crush on her which i later found out that she felt similar but not as strong as she had a boyfriend at the time. I added her on Facebook (childish i know) but i just wanted to somehow let her know i was interested. The next 12 months went by without much contact just a quick chat here and there but nothing to give me the idea she was interested. In September last year (2012) i finally found the courage to ask her out to which she replied she had been waiting a long time for me to ask that. She turned out to be the amazing girl i had hoped she was and i grew more and more attached to her every time we talked or caught up and we seemed to be cruising along awesome until she had to go back home interstate for a friends wedding 5-6 weeks ago. When she came back she was incredibly distant, stand offish and refused to be intimate with me. Turns out that the reason she moved to Melbourne from the Gold Coast 2 years ago was to get away from a boyfriend (not the one she was with when she was my physio) of 10 years she broke up with because he treated her bad and the wedding she went to was his sisters wedding. To her credit she was open and honest about this situation to me and told me that he tried hooking up with her but couldn't do it because she liked me to much. He became very jealous and tried to win her back and she was falling for it. He flew to Melbourne to win her back and she gave in but we continued to talk right up to Christmas day last week to which she was telling me she was unsure she wanted to get into a relationship at all and continued to tell me how much she liked me and enjoyed spending time with me. She was actually going away over new years eve with her ex and 6 mutual friends simply because she wanted to go away over new years and on Christmas day she told me that she would call me when she got back to just let me know how things turned out whether good or bad. Since then i haven't heard from her and i noticed 2 days ago that her name disappeared off my chat list on Facebook so i had a look at her wall and she had deleted me from Facebook which really drove a dagger into my heart. I know this sounds stupid because I've really only known her for 3-4 months and can't compete with 10 years but she really is an amazing girl. I haven't tried contacting her either because i don't want to look needy or clingy or get hurt anymore. I was hoping on getting some advice/ help on the situation as i feel used and heartbroken as if we were the ones who were together for 10 years. Am i doing the right thing? Should i just forget about her? Should i pursue her myself? or have i just been played?? Any advice would be appreciated! Yep! Dude,you got used, screwed and played! She went on holiday with her Ex, but it was okay because she was with 6 other people. Un huh...and I'm SURE she had her own room during that holiday. Then, when she got back, she was a coward and didn't have the balls to end it with you like a lady. She's a frickin coward and ran. Tried to erase any traces of you existance from her life. Running with her tail between her legs because she went on holiday to be a complete wh*re. Dude, you're better off without her. Find a girl that at least has some diginity. Don't bother chasing after her. She's not worth the chase.
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