ReadMyThread Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 So yesterday I go into work and this girl I work with comes up to me and says, "I didn't know it was Cody Petrick." I said yeah and nodded my head then replied, "a name I'll never forget for the rest of my life.". This is the name of the guy my ex cheated on me with and left me for twice... She then sees the pain in my eyes after she brought it up and says, "dont be upset. I shouldn't have said anything.". And then she walks off. Then she comes back and I said "so you know him?" she said, "yeah I went to school with him. He is a loser.". I didn't say anything but then i wanted to know his history with girls. I said,"what happened with him and his ex?" she said that he dated this girl for 3 years and was cheating on her multiple times and she found out and they eventually broke up. She said that one time she found out she stayed with him because she "thought" it was true but I guess they eventually ended. Hearing that just pissed me off completely. Now I know she has a big chance of getting hurt with him and i KNOW HE wouldn't tell her that he did that. But then again she cheated on me so I guess they derserve each other and are meant to be right? They both are cheaters and they have that in common. Someone is going to get hurt in their relationship and I hope it's her. Not only did this piss me off but now it's also gotten to me that I really feel like **** about it. I feel like this guy is better than me and that I'm not good for anybody and never will be good enough. He is better than me. That's why she wanted him. As we were together, she always sit in front of me and cry her eyes out saying, "I'm scared I'm going to lose you. I'm scared you will find better and leave me for it." i would then tell her, "there is nothing better out there Katlyn. Your the girl ive been looking for forever.". And now she turns around and does it to me. After all the promises i made that i never would, she does it. And me, I'll be alone for a very vey very long time now. Hell probably forever. I can't even look at myself anymore because of all this. My insecurities are to the max. I don't ever see me getting another girlfriend to be honest. It ACTUALY probably for the better. Nobody wants me and most likely never will. Just venting about me living my Unhappy damn life. I just want to be happy again. My life has never felt like this before. Where's the end?
fixing Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Mate, she is a cheating whore, callous, no morals, and yes she does deserve that cheating idiot too. Those people will never ever maintain a real relationship because they cannot commit. YOUR BETTER THAN BOTH OF THEM, and i know its hard right now, but trust me, she did you a BIIIIG favour going off with him. She saved you many years of heartache. Just focus on you now, you must never contact her, or enquire about her any more. Do You really want to let that b#### make you feel bad about yourself? Your better than her, and trust me, there are many girls awaiting in the future for you, they will be better, and most importantly, NEVER CHEAT 2
Treasa Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 So yesterday I go into work and this girl I work with comes up to me and says, "I didn't know it was Cody Petrick." I said yeah and nodded my head then replied, "a name I'll never forget for the rest of my life.". This is the name of the guy my ex cheated on me with and left me for twice... She then sees the pain in my eyes after she brought it up and says, "dont be upset. I shouldn't have said anything.". And then she walks off. Then she comes back and I said "so you know him?" she said, "yeah I went to school with him. He is a loser.". I didn't say anything but then i wanted to know his history with girls. I said,"what happened with him and his ex?" she said that he dated this girl for 3 years and was cheating on her multiple times and she found out and they eventually broke up. She said that one time she found out she stayed with him because she "thought" it was true but I guess they eventually ended. Hearing that just pissed me off completely. Now I know she has a big chance of getting hurt with him and i KNOW HE wouldn't tell her that he did that. But then again she cheated on me so I guess they derserve each other and are meant to be right? They both are cheaters and they have that in common. Someone is going to get hurt in their relationship and I hope it's her. Not only did this piss me off but now it's also gotten to me that I really feel like **** about it. I feel like this guy is better than me and that I'm not good for anybody and never will be good enough. He is better than me. That's why she wanted him. As we were together, she always sit in front of me and cry her eyes out saying, "I'm scared I'm going to lose you. I'm scared you will find better and leave me for it." i would then tell her, "there is nothing better out there Katlyn. Your the girl ive been looking for forever.". And now she turns around and does it to me. After all the promises i made that i never would, she does it. And me, I'll be alone for a very vey very long time now. Hell probably forever. I can't even look at myself anymore because of all this. My insecurities are to the max. I don't ever see me getting another girlfriend to be honest. It ACTUALY probably for the better. Nobody wants me and most likely never will. Just venting about me living my Unhappy damn life. I just want to be happy again. My life has never felt like this before. Where's the end? Take a few deep breaths. Please. Just take a few deep breaths, close your eyes for a few moments, and then read on. ...I said close your eyes! Ok, now then. You are not worthless, and you are not going to be alone. This guy sounds like a dick. The fact that she left you for him is NOT a reflection on you. It's a reflection how stupid SHE is. I repeat: YOU ARE NOT THE PROBLEM. He is a cheating douche, she is a cheating douche. You are probably a very lovely guy. Any ******* can get sex. It doesn't make that person someone good or worth dating. Now, as for the part about no one ever liking you again...come on. You know that's not true. Maybe if you were 98 years old and no one had EVER liked you, MAYBE, but you clearly have had at least one girlfriend in your life, right? She liked you. I'm sure a lot of girls will like you. Girls who are smarter and won't cheat on you. It is her loss, hon, not yours. Any chance this girl who was trying to make you feel better is into you?
Treasa Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Mate, she is a cheating whore, callous, no morals, and yes she does deserve that cheating idiot too. Those people will never ever maintain a real relationship because they cannot commit. YOUR BETTER THAN BOTH OF THEM, and i know its hard right now, but trust me, she did you a BIIIIG favour going off with him. She saved you many years of heartache. Just focus on you now, you must never contact her, or enquire about her any more. Do You really want to let that b#### make you feel bad about yourself? Your better than her, and trust me, there are many girls awaiting in the future for you, they will be better, and most importantly, NEVER CHEAT Dammit!! You are always a few seconds faster than me. LOL 2
Author ReadMyThread Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 Take a few deep breaths. Please. Just take a few deep breaths, close your eyes for a few moments, and then read on. ...I said close your eyes! Ok, now then. You are not worthless, and you are not going to be alone. This guy sounds like a dick. The fact that she left you for him is NOT a reflection on you. It's a reflection how stupid SHE is. I repeat: YOU ARE NOT THE PROBLEM. He is a cheating douche, she is a cheating douche. You are probably a very lovely guy. Any ******* can get sex. It doesn't make that person someone good or worth dating. Now, as for the part about no one ever liking you again...come on. You know that's not true. Maybe if you were 98 years old and no one had EVER liked you, MAYBE, but you clearly have had at least one girlfriend in your life, right? She liked you. I'm sure a lot of girls will like you. Girls who are smarter and won't cheat on you. It is her loss, hon, not yours. Any chance this girl who was trying to make you feel better is into you? Her loss? I don't see it as she lost anything. She gained. She met someone who could make her happy while being with me and left me as I was the reason she was unhappy. Now she is happy being with him and he provides much more than I ever could plus looks way better than me. How is that her loss? No wonder she's happy. She got a better boyfriend and now has that feeling of a whole new relationship starting brand new and fresh. She didn't lose anything. She just got rid of what she didn't want anymore. And nah. She just a really cool friend I talk to at work. She knows everything that has happened because I told her like a month ago as I have no one to talk to anymore. Besides she has a boyfriend and I would never put someone through the pain I went through. I have self-respect and morals I live up to.
cavalier99 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 No girls are going to be with you? Weren't you just getting laid recently...repeatedly? I mean i know you didn't have the connection that you had with your ex but it should at least give you some confidence.
Author ReadMyThread Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 Take a few deep breaths. Please. Just take a few deep breaths, close your eyes for a few moments, and then read on. ...I said close your eyes! Ok, now then. You are not worthless, and you are not going to be alone. This guy sounds like a dick. The fact that she left you for him is NOT a reflection on you. It's a reflection how stupid SHE is. I repeat: YOU ARE NOT THE PROBLEM. He is a cheating douche, she is a cheating douche. You are probably a very lovely guy. Any ******* can get sex. It doesn't make that person someone good or worth dating. Now, as for the part about no one ever liking you again...come on. You know that's not true. Maybe if you were 98 years old and no one had EVER liked you, MAYBE, but you clearly have had at least one girlfriend in your life, right? She liked you. I'm sure a lot of girls will like you. Girls who are smarter and won't cheat on you. It is her loss, hon, not yours. Any chance this girl who was trying to make you feel better is into you? Mate, she is a cheating whore, callous, no morals, and yes she does deserve that cheating idiot too. Those people will never ever maintain a real relationship because they cannot commit. YOUR BETTER THAN BOTH OF THEM, and i know its hard right now, but trust me, she did you a BIIIIG favour going off with him. She saved you many years of heartache. Just focus on you now, you must never contact her, or enquire about her any more. Do You really want to let that b#### make you feel bad about yourself? Your better than her, and trust me, there are many girls awaiting in the future for you, they will be better, and most importantly, NEVER CHEAT I guess I just wish one of the girls that are waiting would show up now. This being alone stuff isnt helping. She turned me into her. A person who hates being single and wants someone all the time. That's how she always was and now I can feel why as now I do but I don't want to be that person. I just wish I could be happy and forget about everything.
Author ReadMyThread Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 No girls are going to be with you? Weren't you just getting laid recently...repeatedly? I mean i know you didn't have the connection that you had with your ex but it should at least give you some confidence. Lmaoooo yeah. Actually me and her had AMAZING sex last night. It was awesome. And She gave me the greatest head ever before we started lol. Yeah it makes me feel all good and confident in the moment but knowing that we are nothing but sex just gets to me days later as it is to me now on top of what I heard at work. I just want someone to want me again. As a boyfriend they love not just sex.
fixing Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I guess I just wish one of the girls that are waiting would show up now. This being alone stuff isnt helping. She turned me into her. A person who hates being single and wants someone all the time. That's how she always was and now I can feel why as now I do but I don't want to be that person. I just wish I could be happy and forget about everything. Yeah, dont be like her. Those cheating types, tend to bounce from one person to the next. Your not like that. So, best thing you can do, is force yourself to go out and meet new girls. I know that sounds irrelevant to you now, but do it anyway. Its a good way to get your confidence back up after being mistreated so badly by a cheater. Its also a good way to realise how much of a bitch your ex was. Because, trust me, their are millions of lovely girls, you just got burnt by a bad one. 1
cavalier99 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Lmaoooo yeah. Actually me and her had AMAZING sex last night. It was awesome. And She gave me the greatest head ever before we started lol. Yeah it makes me feel all good and confident in the moment but knowing that we are nothing but sex just gets to me days later as it is to me now on top of what I heard at work. I just want someone to want me again. As a boyfriend they love not just sex. I think that you are on the right path. You just need to get over the idea that you NEED a girlfriend to love you. Start enjoying being single. You just need time and to change your mindset. Your young and there will be plenty of time for relationships later. Enjoy the moment....and the great sex without strings attached. That is many a guys dream at your age! 1
Simon Phoenix Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Her loss? I don't see it as she lost anything. She gained. She met someone who could make her happy while being with me and left me as I was the reason she was unhappy. Now she is happy being with him and he provides much more than I ever could plus looks way better than me. How is that her loss? No wonder she's happy. She got a better boyfriend and now has that feeling of a whole new relationship starting brand new and fresh. She didn't lose anything. She just got rid of what she didn't want anymore. And nah. She just a really cool friend I talk to at work. She knows everything that has happened because I told her like a month ago as I have no one to talk to anymore. Besides she has a boyfriend and I would never put someone through the pain I went through. I have self-respect and morals I live up to. Dude, stop this now. This is ridiculous. God damn.
Simon Phoenix Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I think that you are on the right path. You just need to get over the idea that you NEED a girlfriend to love you. Start enjoying being single. You just need time and to change your mindset. Your young and there will be plenty of time for relationships later. Enjoy the moment....and the great sex without strings attached. That is many a guys dream at your age! Exactly. If you have a serious girlfriend at age 20 you are doing it all wrong It's true what they say sometimes, youth is wasted on the young. ReadMyThread, you have to focus on what you do have instead of moping about what you don't. You have an attractive woman jumping your bones, you are headed to college, you are a talented lyricist. Your ex is a cheating, lying, piece of s--t who is with another cheating, lying, piece of s--t. Snap out of your self-loathing.
na49 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 You're having sex with other girls ReadMyThread? Damn, if I was doing that I'm sure my ex would be the last thing on my mind. Her life hasn't stopped. So she's going to continue doing her, whatever she does. It's annoying to think that their lives haven't stopped because we aren't in it. I wouldn't get too down on hearing someone else is hurting her. You don't owe her anything anymore, so let her have her heart broken. She'll come crying to you because she knows how you cared for her and you'll say something like "Umm... who is this?"
Author ReadMyThread Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 Exactly. If you have a serious girlfriend at age 20 you are doing it all wrong It's true what they say sometimes, youth is wasted on the young. ReadMyThread, you have to focus on what you do have instead of moping about what you don't. You have an attractive woman jumping your bones, you are headed to college, you are a talented lyricist. Your ex is a cheating, lying, piece of s--t who is with another cheating, lying, piece of s--t. Snap out of your self-loathing. Your absolutely right. What the hell is my problem? Lol. God. This is retared lol. I need to pick myself up. I think college will be a good thing to help me improve. I feel i need something big to happen or something to change in my life and I feel that could be it. In fact, today I actually made sort of a plan. I just turned 20. For the next year I will put all my focus on college and do my best in that area. Then by the time I turn 21 I should have my degree and then after that I can start dating again. But for 2013 its all me. It's going to be lonely lol but I will put school before that. I wish I could start tomorrow. Simons ALWAYS right! Thanks.
Author ReadMyThread Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 You're having sex with other girls ReadMyThread? Damn, if I was doing that I'm sure my ex would be the last thing on my mind. Her life hasn't stopped. So she's going to continue doing her, whatever she does. It's annoying to think that their lives haven't stopped because we aren't in it. I wouldn't get too down on hearing someone else is hurting her. You don't owe her anything anymore, so let her have her heart broken. She'll come crying to you because she knows how you cared for her and you'll say something like "Umm... who is this?" See now If I only have said this the first time she started talking to me again and we got back together lmaooo. Oh the shame I carry. Lol. Ah well. Lesson learned lol. Never take an ex back. Check. Lol. As for having sex with other girls? Yeah but it has only been on girl since my ex. I don't recommend it! Lol. It helps but sometimes it backfires but every one is different. Na49, man I've been following EVERY thread you have posted. You amaze me because we are pretty much going trough the same thing i just wish i had it as you do. Im jealous of you! Lol.
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