mrexoticdancer Posted August 18, 2004 Posted August 18, 2004 I met this girl 12 days ago at the club on a friday night. The vibe was there, and she was so close to me and touching me the 5 minutes we spoke. She put her cell number in my phone. I called her the following monday night (3 days later) and left my name and number on her voicemail to give me a call back. She never returned my call It'll be 9 days wednesday. My big time player friend said to give her the benefit of the doubt and a 2nd call wednesday. He says 99.9% of the time, women will screen your first call and more than likely take your 2nd. He says if i get her vm again to say "hey___i was thinking about you and thought i'd call, talk to you later" and hang up. He says if she takes the 2nd depending on her interest level, to set the date for this weekend. If i get her vm and leave the above message, to wait till the end of this weekend for her to return my call. If she doesnt, to delete her number off my phone and move on What do you all think? Call wednesday or move on?
PurpleAngel Posted August 18, 2004 Posted August 18, 2004 There is too much game playing there for my liking. I think you should follow what YOU want to do. Not what your mate tells you to do. If you genially feel to call her again then do! Naturally you need to be prepared that she may not pick up, but at the same time she may, and you may be out in a date before you know it. The important thing is to do what you feel. Too many people rely on others making decision for them, so be an individual, take advice BUT don’t make it your decision. Make it based on what you feel is right for you. Good Luck!
tokyo Posted August 18, 2004 Posted August 18, 2004 Do it, do it, do it. Ask her if you are interested, if your ego is more important then don´t do it.
EIN Posted August 18, 2004 Posted August 18, 2004 Call her, you are not even asking her out on that call. Its basically a friendly reminder to her that you are saying: hey, I am calling about you. Call back if interested. No harm will come from it. You said you called her 3 days later when she was touching you the first night you guys met? you should have called her the next day. 3 days is too obvious and sended to her the wrong message.
Author mrexoticdancer Posted August 19, 2004 Author Posted August 19, 2004 9 days later which is today i made that 2nd attempt after listening to my pimp friend. He said to give her the benefit of the doubt since women will ALWAYS screen a mans first call which is now true to me. I never got that return call so i called her earlier and got her on the phone. I chatted her up for 5 minutes. She knew i was going to ask her out, and she beat me to the punch that her and the x are still having problems (which im alittle aware of). They lived together for a year and she left him for getting involved with drugs, alcohol and no job. She said that she is not ready to date and has denied other guys askin for her #, because she is not ready to date. She's got all these things she's dealing with and its not healthy to just hop into dating so quickly I didnt mention anything about the first attempt call i made, but i did mention if she has caller id. She said yes and that she is changing to a different phone and service, because she's not getting all her messages etc.. She said she was happy to hear from me and that she will transfer my # to her new phone. She says she will call me in the future which i dont believe. She's 27 and i dont really know if she's a flake or not Well i got my answer basically after wondering about her. Now i can move on since she aint over her x, and i doubt she'll call if she decides to get over him. I know i aint going to call her again since i would deal with nothing but drama. Its not worth it. Question is what was up with all the signs of interest and getting her #?
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