Is an escort considered an OW?

[Minnie09]

Yes it's obviously cheating but I don't think an escort is an OW in the proper noun sense.

 

Question though...for everything I read on here that As are all really just about ego boost and external validation, does that mean the cheating party is even MORE broken since he/she is able to fill that need with an escort despite knowing they are paying for the attention, it's not even genuine?

 

Definitely more broken, because he actively seeks that attention from a woman he has to pay rather than just meeting someone at work or at a bar who he flirts with and receives attention from. If an A develops from there, he has weak boundaries and a self-esteem problem. If he pays to get laid and spends a lot of money on a hooker in order to hear what a great guy he is, it's premeditated on top of everything else. It screams entitlement and cake eating at its worst. And it means he probably never gets a shot with a real woman even though he wants to so badly. Pathetic. Gross. All the above is based on the assumption that his W is not in agreement with him on an open M and being deceived. If they are fine having an open M and they're on even ground, fair and square, it's none of anyone's business.

[ComingInHot]

Alice;

I'm trying to understand the whole thing here and since the OP hasn't responded, I'd like your "take" on if I have this right or not.

 

Any man that has made (or woman) vows and commitment to another IS in fact a Cheater. Fact, right?. If he beds another..

 

However, and I believe this is what the question is, just because a person CHEATS doesn't automatically make the "cheatee" an OW/OM. I say this Because what if the Cheater "recepticle" is Not another person?

 

It's still cheating if he gets it on w/(& I know this is gross) let's say a dog, or a blow up doll, anything that is not the partner he committed to. Yet a n animal or plastic doll isn't considered an OW/OM I don't think, right?

 

Then I thought well, there is no relationship w/the blow up doll (I can't keep saying animal... eewww ) so my initial thought of you'd be an OW if there was deep feelings recipercated between the two could be lost as (and again this is so sick to me) the "dog" or animal may love its owner... but the doll?

 

Please tell me I'm over thinking this!...

Edited January 5, 2013 by ComingInHot
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[Catplates]

Key to this is not having sex with everyone under the sun and using condoms.

I don't work for an agency or walk the streets or have a pimp so I'm very picky about who I will and will not see.

 

Does this make it more tasteful do you think?

[Spark1111]

If you wouldn't text it, sext it, email it, sniff or slurp it, talk to or look at it with your spouse or partner standing right beside you.......IT'S CHEATING!

 

And who or what they cheat with is the OW, OM, Or OT (Other Thing)

[PurpleGal]

Aren't most relationships (with the exception of those by decree or birth) defined by the people in them? What makes someone a "girlfriend"? Is it certain actions she does or doesn't take, or is it up to her and the person calling her this? What is a friend? Two people are friends if they decide they are. Seeing an escort is certainly cheating, but the escort would only be the OW/OM if both parties see it that way - in my opinion.

[JamesM]

Glad to hear that your marriage is much better!

 

I hope that you and your wife have started to enjoy lovemaking, as I know that was one of the main issues.

 

Thank you! WE both enjoy it more...and are having more.

 

Much better than an OW or an escort. (That was to keep this on topic! )

 

Anyhow, a man who visits an escort does so to avoid drama and a relationship in many cases. As they say, he pays her to go home.

 

She is not technically an OW even if he is cheating. IMO an OW is one who also develops a relationship of some sort beyond the brief session of sex that occurs between an escort and a client.