kyle77 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 once someone is over someone are they over them for good? Share your stories and advice please. Lately I feel like I am over my ex and I guess I kind of feel a little dissapointed that that can now never work. I guess throughout my breakup I have felt that at least one day I could get her back....but now I just feel as though it couldnt work. So let me know what you think on this...
Treasa Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Isn't that a good thing? I mean, I understand the disappointment thing, but that will go away. Are you doing enough interesting things with your life? When I'm really busy with my own life I'm generally not even thinking about a relationship, especially one with an ex.
Author kyle77 Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 Isn't that a good thing? I mean, I understand the disappointment thing, but that will go away. Are you doing enough interesting things with your life? When I'm really busy with my own life I'm generally not even thinking about a relationship, especially one with an ex. It is a good thing and I am glad I have finally gotten to this place where I am happy for me and not living in so much misery. But I cant help but wonder if there was anything else that could have been done. I guess im just a little bummed out by the fact that I feel like now there is no possible way I could be with this girl cause I am for the most part over her. I guess I dont know Im over her because I haven't seen her in a while and I guess that will be the big test but for now I just feel dissapointed that I am over her
Missing Him Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 If you were truly "over her" then I don't think you'd be dwelling as much on how you can't be with her? It's natural to feel disappointment when a relationship doesn't/can't work out, but if you were actually "over her," I think it would be a passing disappointment and not something that is plaguing you so much.
Bluem Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 If you were truly "over her" then I don't think you'd be dwelling as much on how you can't be with her? It's natural to feel disappointment when a relationship doesn't/can't work out, but if you were actually "over her," I think it would be a passing disappointment and not something that is plaguing you so much. Flawed logic. Even when I did not want to get back with my ex (as in, I no longer found myself able to be physically attracted to him), I was still upset that there was a point in the past when we could have been happy. It can be really upsetting to continuously think "I could have been happy forever, but now the one thing that made me happy no longer makes me happy". It's kind of a depressing phase. You stop feeling angry/wanting your ex back, but you feel like if you don't even want the one thing you really wanted (your ex or whatever), then will you ever want anything? It's confusing. Also I don't mean overall happy, but just happy in a relationship. Separate from complete depression.
Treasa Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 It is a good thing and I am glad I have finally gotten to this place where I am happy for me and not living in so much misery. But I cant help but wonder if there was anything else that could have been done. I guess im just a little bummed out by the fact that I feel like now there is no possible way I could be with this girl cause I am for the most part over her. I guess I dont know Im over her because I haven't seen her in a while and I guess that will be the big test but for now I just feel dissapointed that I am over her I think it sounds like you're a normal human adult. LOL I don't think you have anything to worry about. And this will pass.
Simon Phoenix Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 That spark will be always there in some way. I think I have finally reached a point where I'm over mind and comfortable with everything that's happened, but if a situation came up where her and I had a chance to get back together, I'd think seriously about it depending on the circumstances. Nothing wrong with that though, as I would have jumped at the chance without thinking before. Now I'm in position to make an educated decision if that should ever arise, which is good.
Author kyle77 Posted January 5, 2013 Author Posted January 5, 2013 Ya thats true... lately I have felt like I can rationally make a decision if being with her is right for me. Which is good! But Bluem has it spot on....thats exactly how i feel.
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