fabi20 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I don't see a lot of positive stories about people getting back with their ex's. I know a lot of people here and probably still struggling with break ups and after people reconcile they move on and don't come back to these forums, but is there hope? Making up stories?
Treasa Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Oh yes! My jerk ex-boyfriend from a few years ago. We dated for six years, and he broke up with me several times. Let's see...the first major time he asked for NC for a week, which he got. He then called me, we talked, I was flirty but light, and we got back together after a few weeks. The second time I was practically begging him back, but in a very subtle way (or so I thought), and when I was really able to turn on the actress inside me, I was able to show him I was ok just being friendly, and somehow we got back together. The third time I tried the just being friendly thing again, offering to do nice things for him (see, he had gaslighted/gaslit me so bad that I almost believed that things were my fault), and he accepted all my help. On the other hand, he also told me after five weeks when I became impatient and really did beg that he couldn't see himself with me at the time, but maybe in the future. There were a few minor breakups that only lasted a few hours to a day in there, too, but I successfully got back together with him several times! And then once I made the conscious decision that I didn't want to be with him anymore, I never contacted him again and got over him a few days after begging him. It could have been the words, "I miss having a girlfriend, but I'm not sure you're the one I want" that did it, as my pride is pretty strong. It could have also been the fact that he was 31, living at home with his mommy who did all the cooking, cleaning, and even his freaking laundry. It could have been that he was in a dead-end job with a useless degree, or that he was incredibly ugly once I admitted it to myself, or that he was a closet transgender who liked to imagine himself as a woman having sex with men and having a perfect, ideal love. Whatever the **** it was, all I know is that a little time and perspective go a LONG way in making you realize how thankful you should be that things DIDN'T "work out." 1
Amelie1980 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Yeah I know of two.... A guy I knew at work years ago dumped his girlfriends & said he didn't love her etc. they split up. he had a change of heart & said sorry. they got back together & now they're married with a child. but how often does that happen? Again: a lady I know at work wad with her partner since she easy 19. When they were about 30 he cheated on her & left for another woman. a couple of weeks later he realized his mistake and went back. She forgave him and now happily married with 2 children. But lets be honest....how often does this really happen. 1
KathyM Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I know a married couple who were separated for several months, and against all odds, they were able to reconcile and put their marriage back together. They are now very happy together, and very glad that they gave their marriage another chance. I also know a couple who wishes they had never separated, and were trying to get back together, but it's very hard to do once the couple separates and starts to live a separate existence. The man often signs a lease or buys a property planning to live a single life, and the logistics involved are difficult to overcome when considering reconciling. If it weren't for the two separate properties they now had, they probably would have gotten back together and reconciled their marriage.
NoMoreJerks Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 "I miss having a girlfriend, but I'm not sure you're the one I want" At least yours said those words. Mine acted like that, but never actually said those words, so I wasn't even 100% sure, and didn't want to regret letting go of him when I wasn't 100% sure, especially that he kept telling me I was paranoid, etc. (gaslighting me).. eventually, I started doubting my own sanity/decisions, so I never let go of him, until he dumped me.
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