almosteverythingx Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Me and my partner were madly in love ( bet you've heard that one many times before on here) I'd lost my mum previously before the relationship and then lost my dad 3 week before we got together. So he was a huge support to me emotionally. We were togethr for 2.5 years Anyway, I lived with him and his parents for about 8-9 months. Things were good but then with my inheritance I purchased a house. We didn't want it to be all serious as we are only 21 it was just we got on so well living together at his parents we thought it would be different. We moved in September and things went down hill after 2 months, the spark died, and he said he started feeling unhappy 3 weeks prior to our break up, he said due to arguing (no serious arguments just really married couple arguments) and that made him in the end dump me and said he 'didn't know if he loved me anymore'. We haven't been together for a month, and he keeps breaking the no contact rule, the maximum days is 4 that he's gone without making conversation. He said he is trying to think positively and is frustrated in a way that his feelings have just 'gone'. What would your advice be for me? Do you think he has the case of GIGS? I have told him now to leave me be and to have space to think and he has agreed on this. Note He has unfollowed me on twitter/instagram etc as he doesn't want to see if I'm 'with other men' after a photo I had getting drunk with one. Also, in October whilst discussing people getting engaged he said to me 'it will be sooner than you think' about us getting engaged... (not that I was too bothered as I'm still very young) He also told a couple when we was on holiday he would 'marry me tomorrow if he could' Back in July... Oh how things change.
Quest4_TheLost Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I think in every long term relationship there comes a point in time where we question our feelings for the other and if the other person is really right for us. I in this situation wouldn't just leave the person to see if that was the case. You guys are young you have a long road ahead of you. Best to question it now instead of years down the road of living unhappily. No relationship is perfect everyone has arguemnts even severe ones. Dosen't mean they just leave. Infact the way I see it those things make you stronger as a couple when you come out on the other side. What I would do. I would give him time and the space he needs. I wouldn't contact him if he contacts you keep it short. For yourself I would start moving on and healing incase you guys never patch things up. Make sure whenever you do talk to him not to preassure him about the relationship and whats going on. But definetly don't let this guy string you along. If he starts coming to you with I miss you, I regret it yadda yadda. Tugging at your emotions, if he starts in with that crud I would cut him off completley. He either regrets it and misses you and comes back or gets on with things. Not leaving you with false hope and possibilities just to get your reaction. *HUGS* I know its tough!! 1
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