aimeelouwood94 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Before I met my boyfriend I was friends with this other guy and on a trip yesterday with my brother he was talking about a teacher at school and that i was with her son (the guy i was friends with before). My boyfriend waited til we got home and kicked off saying i lied to him and that he doesnt believe i didnt sleep with the friend. I didnt sleep with him. We nearly did but we were too drunk to. I told him at the start of the relationship that nothing happened between me and this guy because my boyfriend hates him and i didnt want to lose him. Ive admitted it now but he's kicked me out of our bed and into the spare room. He says he hates me one minute and loves me the next but he won't come near me and says he feels betrayed. What can I do?? Ive said sorry but its not enough. Thanks Aimee
Treasa Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Did you nearly sleep with this guy before or after you started dating your boyfriend?
Author aimeelouwood94 Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 months before I even met him. I lied about it because I didnt think I'd stand a chance with my boyfriend if he knew
Treasa Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 But...you didn't lie to him. You didn't sleep with this other guy. I don't know. Lying is bad, but if he's going to make this big of a deal because you almost slept with a guy when you drunk months BEFORE you were with your boyfriend, he should get the hell over it. I couldn't be with someone that controlling and pissy. If I am not with a person, I don't owe them any explanation of what I do with my free time. The only reason I would feel compelled to discuss my sexual history is if I had a disease or something that the other person should know about before becoming intimate with me. 1
TaraMaiden Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 The thing to determine is whether your BF ever went out with anyone before he met you, and how 'close and personal' they became.... see what's sauce for the goose.... he can't have it both ways. And to judge you and condemn you - and refuse to believe you when you swear you didn't - the words 'Control freak' come to mind....... 1
supermanthatho Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 You have NOTHING to be sorry about! Your bf sounds possessive and controlling by throwing you out of the bed This isn't fair on you because what you did in the past and especially before you met your current bf is none of his business anyways. He shouldn't be up in your private life before him that's not fair on you Tell him, listen "I've told you a million times and it's the truth that I've never slept with this other guy. And even if that were the case I'm with you now and I only want you" I'm sorry about your bf acting this way it is uncalled for and I wish you the best of luck on sorting this out and for the future
newmoon Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 this is a controlling behavior, especially the part about kicking you out to sleep elsewhere - it makes him a 'winner' in a fight about nothing, something that never even happened. you're being punished for honesty and it's just his ego that is brusied - perhaps because he is jealous of the guy or the fact the guy even had a chance with you. you should remind him that you are being HONEST with him and that in a mature relationship there needs to be open communication and respect. you're not getting either right now.
fancy feast Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Dude sounds weak and insecure. Don't feel bad at all.
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