sweetkiwi Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Well would you date a FULL Asian guy? Fully :love:
Author Jacobchen Posted January 5, 2013 Author Posted January 5, 2013 My first boyfriend was half-Japanese, half-German and was really hot. Here in San Francisco, Korean men can get white women pretty easily. There is a huge Asian community here and I've been on a lot of dates with Asian men and there are a ton of mixed couples in the Bay Area. Haha well I live down in Irvine and same here I see some Asian men with white women but I just feel a wierd because cliques at my school are still kind of racially separated you know what I mean? And it feels weird asking a girl of another race for the first time.
What_A_Hoot Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I was trying to give an example of one who was, but generally speaking... there might be a couple that would consider it. But I think the vast majority of them probably wouldn't. Part of that could have to do with the area that I am in, there isn't a significant Asian population. I also think that, yes, they might harbor certain stereotypes against Asian guys - which isn't always fair, but that is the way that it is. As for where I live, I think it be best to leave it broad based on a public forum and say "SE US".
Author Jacobchen Posted January 5, 2013 Author Posted January 5, 2013 I was trying to give an example of one who was, but generally speaking... there might be a couple that would consider it. But I think the vast majority of them probably wouldn't. Part of that could have to do with the area that I am in, there isn't a significant Asian population. I also think that, yes, they might harbor certain stereotypes against Asian guys - which isn't always fair, but that is the way that it is. As for where I live, I think it be best to leave it broad based on a public forum and say "SE US". Ohh so is it just more of an issue of exposure rather than physical attraction? Oh yea what percent of your area is asian?
jcrew11 Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Yes there is a girl I have my eye on! Well I think many Asian men would like to, but were a bit shy about asking because we don't know what you girls think about us... Are the white women you know are open to dating Asian men? There are numerous reasons a woman can reject a man - race, religion, too fat, too bald, too poor, too ugly, boring, etc. Sure, race is a barrier at first. But you have to get to know the woman first and find out what "SHE wants." Now she may also have lots of other men chasing her, so you have to up your game big time. But you have to talk to her and establish a dialogue and friendship. Some women will put guys in the Friendzone but that at least gives you access to her "likes and dislikes." Part of getting success with lots of women, is learning more about women from one girlfriend to the next. You also build confidence along the way, and that is noticeable and attractive to women of all races. Sure there are lots of women that don't consider inter-racial dating, until they meet an "amazing man" (which is you). If you are a quality guy, with a good personality, then you can win over any women. Are you someone who makes her feel good and makes her life better in some way? Think about what you can offer a woman of any race, and whether that is enough of a selling point.
What_A_Hoot Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I think the two go hand-in-hand actually. There isn't just the exposure with Asian guys in this area, for example, but also everywhere else, like in the media. I think if there was more exposure then that could lead to others being more open to dating an Asian guy. In your area since you mentioned the split is 50/50, I would imagine it is a lot more common to see Asians and Caucasians mingling together and dating. That isn't to say there isn't those cliques where people prefer to stay with their own ethnicity, I am just thinking that at least people where you are would be more open to it. In the end though, don't let your race be a barrier. It might be harder to overcome that hurdle with some, but the right girl will like you for being you regardless of your race, eye color, height, weight, etc etc. And percentage? Hm... I brought put it at 3%. Really small, unfortunately!
jcrew11 Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Haha well I live down in Irvine and same here I see some Asian men with white women but I just feel a wierd because cliques at my school are still kind of racially separated you know what I mean? And it feels weird asking a girl of another race for the first time. You're asking the question mainly to "build your own self confidence." But living in "fear of rejection" is not attractive and hurts your confidence. A confident man can date woman of all races anywhere and anytime. Now, if you are in HS, I would not recommend "surprising her and asking her out to dinner." You need to establish a friendship first so she knows who you are and learns to trust you. Right now, you are probably the creepy stalker guy that follows her around hoping that she notices you. Wrong, I know things are cliquish, but you should try to hang out with her and her friends in a low-stress situation like at a party. Or if she's in your classes, help her on her homework or talk about class questions. Join a sports team like track and field, where its coed and there are lots of hot girls running around.
Author Jacobchen Posted January 5, 2013 Author Posted January 5, 2013 I think the two go hand-in-hand actually. There isn't just the exposure with Asian guys in this area, for example, but also everywhere else, like in the media. I think if there was more exposure then that could lead to others being more open to dating an Asian guy. In your area since you mentioned the split is 50/50, I would imagine it is a lot more common to see Asians and Caucasians mingling together and dating. That isn't to say there isn't those cliques where people prefer to stay with their own ethnicity, I am just thinking that at least people where you are would be more open to it. In the end though, don't let your race be a barrier. It might be harder to overcome that hurdle with some, but the right girl will like you for being you regardless of your race, eye color, height, weight, etc etc. And percentage? Hm... I brought put it at 3%. Really small, unfortunately! What the Indian (India kind not native American) and middle eastern population there
Author Jacobchen Posted January 5, 2013 Author Posted January 5, 2013 You're asking the question mainly to "build your own self confidence." But living in "fear of rejection" is not attractive and hurts your confidence. A confident man can date woman of all races anywhere and anytime. Now, if you are in HS, I would not recommend "surprising her and asking her out to dinner." You need to establish a friendship first so she knows who you are and learns to trust you. Right now, you are probably the creepy stalker guy that follows her around hoping that she notices you. Wrong, I know things are cliquish, but you should try to hang out with her and her friends in a low-stress situation like at a party. Or if she's in your classes, help her on her homework or talk about class questions. Join a sports team like track and field, where its coed and there are lots of hot girls running around. Haha I'm the captain of my track team so I help train and facilitate both guys and girls so I come in contact with lots of girls... But that's only in practice though, how do I bring it to the next level?
Author Jacobchen Posted January 5, 2013 Author Posted January 5, 2013 You're asking the question mainly to "build your own self confidence." But living in "fear of rejection" is not attractive and hurts your confidence. A confident man can date woman of all races anywhere and anytime. Now, if you are in HS, I would not recommend "surprising her and asking her out to dinner." You need to establish a friendship first so she knows who you are and learns to trust you. Right now, you are probably the creepy stalker guy that follows her around hoping that she notices you. Wrong, I know things are cliquish, but you should try to hang out with her and her friends in a low-stress situation like at a party. Or if she's in your classes, help her on her homework or talk about class questions. Join a sports team like track and field, where its coed and there are lots of hot girls running around. Umm could you give some advice?
jcrew11 Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Umm could you give some advice? What is preventing you from talking to girls during practice or at events? One good way to get noticed is to cheer her during her races, and be supportive, and get her water. Are you just stuck in the Friend zone? What about the other guys on the team, are any of them dating girls - just join that social circle and have your friends introduce you to their girlfriend's friends. If you have a car, you can offer to give people rides home from practice, and get some face time and conversation time. Your group of friends may go out to a movie, so ask her and her friends along. Or to the local diner for some after practice dinner. Do you have a speech impediment or a heavy accent? You might want to practice public speaking on your own, just so you can communicate better with women.
todreaminblue Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I live in a semi-diverse area in California (it's around 50% Caucasian and 50% Asian), and I've been attracted to quite a few Caucasian girls throughout my life. Some of my Asian friends have dated White girls but I'm not sure about you girls' general idea of dating an Asian man... I'm 5'10, quite athletic/built, and I think I'm a fun guy to be around once you get to know me. (For UK users: by Asian I mean east Asian like Korean, Japanese, Vietnamese, etc.) Be 100% honest ladies would you date someone like me? I have had asian men friends, one in high school who was a blast,always made me laugh, i wasnt attracted to him anything other than a friend,i am attracted nwo to an asian man, and it is him i am attracted to not where he comes from, i had to ask where he cam e from so its all him, he is a dreamy kinda guy...smilin, it is his humble spirit and he has passion...so yes big attraction.......would i date him....already tried to get to know him better, and i am a blue eyed freckle faced aussie......he is the one who isnt attracted....he still rocks...;0).....deb
Author Jacobchen Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 What is preventing you from talking to girls during practice or at events? One good way to get noticed is to cheer her during her races, and be supportive, and get her water. Are you just stuck in the Friend zone? What about the other guys on the team, are any of them dating girls - just join that social circle and have your friends introduce you to their girlfriend's friends. If you have a car, you can offer to give people rides home from practice, and get some face time and conversation time. Your group of friends may go out to a movie, so ask her and her friends along. Or to the local diner for some after practice dinner. Do you have a speech impediment or a heavy accent? You might want to practice public speaking on your own, just so you can communicate better with women. Alright I'll work on it No I speak perfect English but I stutter when I'm nervous so I'll try to work on that Thanks for the input!
Author Jacobchen Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 I have had asian men friends, one in high school who was a blast,always made me laugh, i wasnt attracted to him anything other than a friend,i am attracted nwo to an asian man, and it is him i am attracted to not where he comes from, i had to ask where he cam e from so its all him, he is a dreamy kinda guy...smilin, it is his humble spirit and he has passion...so yes big attraction.......would i date him....already tried to get to know him better, and i am a blue eyed freckle faced aussie......he is the one who isnt attracted....he still rocks...;0).....deb Cool! Good luck on that! 1
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