Arabella Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Do you include east Indians as Asian as well? Did you not find them attractive because of lack of exposure or for what reason? Probably a combination of factors. In the country I was born, I never talked to or met any Asian people. There were some, but they were very clannish and didn't mingle with the locals. Also, I think the main reason for my lack of physical attraction was the fact that Asian men are generally short and thin. I like men to be taller and a little heavier (not fat, just meaty . The small frame coupled with the fact that many also have little body/facial hair, gives an overall feminine impression that I found unattractive. I'm not including east Indians in this, just Korean, Chinese, Thai, Japanese, etc. My boyfriend is 5'10", and he's definitely well built... so my main gripe about Asian body type was moot and attraction developed.
taiko Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I live in a semi-diverse area in California (it's around 50% Caucasian and 50% Asian), and I've been attracted to quite a few Caucasian girls throughout my life. Some of my Asian friends have dated White girls but I'm not sure about you girls' general idea of dating an Asian man... I'm 5'10, quite athletic/built, and I think I'm a fun guy to be around once you get to know me. (For UK users: by Asian I mean east Asian like Korean, Japanese, Vietnamese, etc.) Be 100% honest ladies would you date someone like me? You said yourself some of your friends have so why the question? Now back in 79 when it was possible to hear Asians say they would never marry a Black I knew many mixed race kids of so called war brides and a couple of Asian American women married their boyfriends after high school graduation. So even if some say the won't some will and 30 years after my experience even more will now. White women are no different then Asian American women.
Imported Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 (edited) OP, I am half-white/half-asian and I have gone out with a lot of white women, including Swedish girls with blonde hair blue eyes, surprisingly lots of German girls and so on. You're asking questions that can't really be answered. Not all Asians look alike. Ihave full Asian friends that attract all sorts of girls. I have full Asian friends that don't attract any girls. Which one are you? I don't know. Girls may say...they are not attracted to Asian men, thinking of Asian men as the friends I have that don't attract any girls. But when they meet the full Asian friends I have that attract all sorts of women, they are attracted. Edited January 4, 2013 by Imported
Author Jacobchen Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 OP, I am half-white/half-asian and I have gone out with a lot of white women, including Swedish girls with blonde hair blue eyes, surprisingly lots of German girls and so on. You're asking questions that can't really be answered. Not all Asians look alike. Ihave full Asian friends that attract all sorts of girls. I have full Asian friends that don't attract any girls. Which one are you? I don't know. Girls may say...they are not attracted to Asian men, thinking of Asian men as the friends I have that don't attract any girls. But when they meet the full Asian friends I have that attract all sorts of women, they are attracted. Sounds right to me
Author Jacobchen Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 You said yourself some of your friends have so why the question? Now back in 79 when it was possible to hear Asians say they would never marry a Black I knew many mixed race kids of so called war brides and a couple of Asian American women married their boyfriends after high school graduation. So even if some say the won't some will and 30 years after my experience even more will now. White women are no different then Asian American women. Ok I guess you are right maybe I'm focusing too much on differences rather than similarities between people.
40 Fonzarelli Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Some will some won't. You can't really change anyone's preferences so just work on your confidence, stop looking for approval, and be the best asian man you can be. Things will fall into place.
TheZebra Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I'm mostly attracted to white guys, but I have seen half asian men before that made me do a double take. I remember seeing a comedian about a year ago who was half asian and I thought he was a good looking guy. Every woman's attracted to someone different, so don't lose hope.
Author Jacobchen Posted January 5, 2013 Author Posted January 5, 2013 Some will some won't. You can't really change anyone's preferences so just work on your confidence, stop looking for approval, and be the best asian man you can be. Things will fall into place. Fair enough thanks!
Treasa Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Some will some won't. You can't really change anyone's preferences so just work on your confidence, stop looking for approval, and be the best asian man you can be. Things will fall into place. Unrelated, but up until I was 18, I thought the song was called "Secret Asian Man" instead of "Secret Agent Man" and I was REALLY confused... 1
Author Jacobchen Posted January 5, 2013 Author Posted January 5, 2013 Unrelated, but up until I was 18, I thought the song was called "Secret Asian Man" instead of "Secret Agent Man" and I was REALLY confused... Does that equate to an yes to my topic? 1
Ruby Slippers Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I'm a white girl and have dated white, Latino, Asian, and Indian guys. And yes, I would again. The only reason I didn't keep seeing the Asian guy is he was pretty emotionally closed (said it was because his ex-fiancé cheated on him). 1
Avulare Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 The physical characteristics I'm most attracted to in men (strong beard growth, hair on chest and abdomen, blue/green eyes) tend to be less common in men of Asian descent, so as of yet I haven't been attracted to any Asian dudes. Not saying it couldn't happen, but he'd have to have a hell of a lot of other redeeming qualities to make up for the physical aspect. Catching a glimpse of chest or stomach hair on the right guy will make me soaking wet, like, instantly.
zebracolors Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 ...so as of yet I haven't been attracted to any Asian dudes. Not saying it couldn't happen, but he'd have to have a hell of a lot of other redeeming qualities to make up for the physical aspect. agree with Avulare. Perhaps I just have not met the right person of Asian ethnicity yet, but none IME with whom I was attracted to both physically and emotionally.But of course I'd be open to it. But rather than say my preference has to do with any culture ethnicity in particular, Id like to think it comes down to physical traits that generally are attractive to me personally. What makes a face attractive to me is made up of all the little parts, like dark brown eyes, jawline, cheekbones etc. And it just so happens that men from many countries share many of the same physical traits that I find attractive In my case this is probably why I personally am attracted to Indian, Arab and Latino men. For other women out there its different physical characteristics which might include features common to Asian men.
Treasa Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Catching a glimpse of chest or stomach hair on the right guy will make me soaking wet, like, instantly. Oh, THIS so much. Happy trails truly make me happy.
Treasa Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Asian is a pretty broad term. I mean, there are definitely differences between Indian, Chinese, Korean, Japanese, Vietnamese, Filipino, etc. I think they're all awesome. That being said, I also love girls, all types, regardless of race.
Author Jacobchen Posted January 5, 2013 Author Posted January 5, 2013 Asian is a pretty broad term. I mean, there are definitely differences between Indian, Chinese, Korean, Japanese, Vietnamese, Filipino, etc. I think they're all awesome. That being said, I also love girls, all types, regardless of race. Sounds good to me!
taiko Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 . (For UK users: by Asian I mean east Asian like Korean, Japanese, Vietnamese, etc.) I remember hitting my college campus in the fall of 79 to hear "oriental" refers to things and Asians are the people. Then when I got on the internet all these people from the UK would use the term Oriental and Americans would chime in to tell them they were using a racist term. With the what are you daft you Yank, how are Indians and Japanese the same discussion to follow But then I had never heard of Indians and Pakistanis described as Asian until the Jawarharlal Choudhury character on Head Of The Class five years later.
What_A_Hoot Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I am a Caucasian white woman and I have dated an Asian guy before and I am very open to doing so again. I don't have one bad thing to say about an Asian guy, except maybe how there aren't too many around where I am. It has been my experience that white guys tend to want to date Asian females way more than Asian men wanting to date white woman though, so I find this topic of conversation very interesting because it isn't too often that it comes up. Is there perhaps a certain girl that you have your eye on?
Author Jacobchen Posted January 5, 2013 Author Posted January 5, 2013 I am a Caucasian white woman and I have dated an Asian guy before and I am very open to doing so again. I don't have one bad thing to say about an Asian guy, except maybe how there aren't too many around where I am. It has been my experience that white guys tend to want to date Asian females way more than Asian men wanting to date white woman though, so I find this topic of conversation very interesting because it isn't too often that it comes up. Is there perhaps a certain girl that you have your eye on? Yes there is a girl I have my eye on! Well I think many Asian men would like to, but were a bit shy about asking because we don't know what you girls think about us... Are the white women you know are open to dating Asian men?
What_A_Hoot Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I actually know one who is in a very committed relationship with someone that is Chinese-American. Up until the point where she first met him, the type of men that she dated were all Caucasian males - specifically ones with brown hair, brown eyes, fairly built, etc. She would never consider an Asian guy but all these other men she was dating really didn't treat her all that well. It was on a whim that she decided to respond back to his inquiry on POF. Well now she is claiming that he is the best thing to ever happen to her and he does treat her well, so I am happy for them. But I see the slight irony that she decided to let go of whatever stereotypes that she might have had and ended up because of that finding someone that truly loves and cares for her. (NOTE: I am not saying that Caucasian men are dogs or anything like that, lol, but just goes to show what can happen if you just have a more open mind and be willing to go outside your comfort zone) I really hope you are able to tell this girl that you like her - or at least take that big step towards "testing the waters" if you will. If you do ever want to chat about it, let me know. I like to think I have enough experience here to be able to help "from that Caucasian female perspective".
sweetkiwi Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I look white. My first boyfriend was Chinese/Mexican. He was the best boyfriend I've ever had. I would certainly consider dating another Asian guy. Shoot kinda wish I was Asian myself. Japanese TBE.
Author Jacobchen Posted January 5, 2013 Author Posted January 5, 2013 I actually know one who is in a very committed relationship with someone that is Chinese-American. Up until the point where she first met him, the type of men that she dated were all Caucasian males - specifically ones with brown hair, brown eyes, fairly built, etc. She would never consider an Asian guy but all these other men she was dating really didn't treat her all that well. It was on a whim that she decided to respond back to his inquiry on POF. Well now she is claiming that he is the best thing to ever happen to her and he does treat her well, so I am happy for them. But I see the slight irony that she decided to let go of whatever stereotypes that she might have had and ended up because of that finding someone that truly loves and cares for her. (NOTE: I am not saying that Caucasian men are dogs or anything like that, lol, but just goes to show what can happen if you just have a more open mind and be willing to go outside your comfort zone) I really hope you are able to tell this girl that you like her - or at least take that big step towards "testing the waters" if you will. If you do ever want to chat about it, let me know. I like to think I have enough experience here to be able to help "from that Caucasian female perspective". Well what I was asking was would your other friends be open to it? And do you mind me asking what state you live in (not a stalker)?
CarrieT Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 My first boyfriend was half-Japanese, half-German and was really hot. Here in San Francisco, Korean men can get white women pretty easily. There is a huge Asian community here and I've been on a lot of dates with Asian men and there are a ton of mixed couples in the Bay Area.
Author Jacobchen Posted January 5, 2013 Author Posted January 5, 2013 I look white. My first boyfriend was Chinese/Mexican. He was the best boyfriend I've ever had. I would certainly consider dating another Asian guy. Shoot kinda wish I was Asian myself. Japanese TBE. Well would you date a FULL Asian guy?
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