Women who receive repeat emails, may have realized the supply has been exhausted?

[irc333]

I was wondering, I am seeing quite several amount of dating profile ads where women are stating:

 

"If you had emailed me already, and I don't respond, it means I wasn't interested, so please do not CONTINUE to email me until I DO answer! You know who you are!"

 

Apparently, women are getting fed up of getting repetitive emails from the same guys (locally of course) that keep emailing them....but not daily , ...they do leave a couple of weeks between emails...and then email them again.

 

If women would just reply, saying "Sorry, I don't think we're a good match, good luck in your search"? They wouldn't need to drop a "if you emailed me already" disclaimer in their profile

 

OR is it getting so bad with these guys sending repeat emails, that women had to have resorted to such measures?

 

 

Though, I do wonder....if people have just geographically EXHAUSTED their supply of prospects on the dating site, and the men are just CYCLING back through the same women again?

[Art_Critic]

No reply is also a reply, it means they aren't interested.

 

When I was doing OLD I would send out an email and then remove that person from my searches so that I never sent out an email to her a second time, match at the time only saved 30 days of sent emails so in 30 days you would have no idea if you sent someone an email or not so my solution was easy.. remove them from showing up ever again in my searches.

 

I understand that today match is different and you can track the people you send emails to.

 

I think the men out there that send more than one email expecting a reply have no clue who they have sent emails to, they are simply template emailing every girl that shows up in their search that is hot and I would bet they also never even read the profiles of the women they email.

[DC4]

I don't give a crap. I would get several emails from the same men all the time. Does it take that much time to say "no thank you" or just delete the thing? Jesus, is this seriously someone's biggest problem?

[soccerrprp]

I was wondering, I am seeing quite several amount of dating profile ads where women are stating:

 

"If you had emailed me already, and I don't respond, it means I wasn't interested, so please do not CONTINUE to email me until I DO answer! You know who you are!"

 

Apparently, women are getting fed up of getting repetitive emails from the same guys (locally of course) that keep emailing them....but not daily , ...they do leave a couple of weeks between emails...and then email them again.

 

If women would just reply, saying "Sorry, I don't think we're a good match, good luck in your search"? They wouldn't need to drop a "if you emailed me already" disclaimer in their profile

 

OR is it getting so bad with these guys sending repeat emails, that women had to have resorted to such measures?

 

 

Though, I do wonder....if people have just geographically EXHAUSTED their supply of prospects on the dating site, and the men are just CYCLING back through the same women again?

 

LOL! All of the above!

 

It would be easier if they would simply respond by saying that they are not interested. It is also true that many women get so many emails that they are not able to get to them all as they date. I have contacted a few that I know that I have contacted before and they've responded by saying that she didn't remember or probably didn't get to my email.

 

Anyway, the profiles are certainly being recycled. OLD is nuts!

[irc333]

LOL! All of the above!

 

It would be easier if they would simply respond by saying that they are not interested. It is also true that many women get so many emails that they are not able to get to them all as they date. I have contacted a few that I know that I have contacted before and they've responded by saying that she didn't remember or probably didn't get to my email.

 

Anyway, the profiles are certainly being recycled. OLD is nuts!

 

Yeah sometimes some of us guys have to follow-up considering the "fan mail" they're always getting. I've gotten dates from women I follow-up with, too..only because my email was caught in the weeds of many.

 

Eventually these ladies will realize there's just a finite amount of men in their area, and they'll just be keeping themselves single for years if they don't respond.

[KathyM]

As I've said before on LS, many women are not inclined to send a rejection Email to someone because it often does not stop there, and the guy usually demands to know why she is not interested, or tries to talk her into seeing him, or outright insults her because he was rejected. That is why many women will not send the rejection Email, and instead prefer to put something in their profile so that men know not to keep Emailing if he has not gotten a response.

[Emilia]

 

Eventually these ladies will realize there's just a finite amount of men in their area, and they'll just be keeping themselves single for years if they don't respond.

 

The fault with that kind of thinking is that they will still not like you, you just end up wasting a bit more time by corresponding with disinterested members of the opposite sex.

[Casablanca]

I would not want a rejection email, as I'll see I have a reply and I'll think SWEET, she is interested!

 

I posted in the thread about women who claim no man wants them that there are two women I've seen on POF everytime I've activated my account on there the last few years. I do send them a message each time, I know I've improved and perhaps what they want has changed. Never have heard from them, but I wonder if they just keep their profiles for ego. If I had to guess, they haven't been in a relationship the last few years...I agree that one shouldn't settle, but if you've had little success, maybe you should try a date with someone who you may not have been interested in before, but you see some slight potential in.

 

Also some guys from reading women's profile will send them a message every day even if there is no reply, not even weeks apart.

[soccerrprp]

As I've said before on LS, many women are not inclined to send a rejection Email to someone because it often does not stop there, and the guy usually demands to know why she is not interested, or tries to talk her into seeing him, or outright insults her because he was rejected. That is why many women will not send the rejection Email, and instead prefer to put something in their profile so that men know not to keep Emailing if he has not gotten a response.

 

Understood.

[soccerrprp]

Yeah sometimes some of us guys have to follow-up considering the "fan mail" they're always getting. I've gotten dates from women I follow-up with, too..only because my email was caught in the weeds of many.

 

Eventually these ladies will realize there's just a finite amount of men in their area, and they'll just be keeping themselves single for years if they don't respond.

 

Yup. Many of these women will remain single for other reasons as well.

[irc333]

Good post Casa B,

 

I would email some women after a year later, still seeing them on this site....some would actually say IN their profile:

 

"Yeah, that's right, I'm back....again..."

 

And then continue with their profile, they'd even voice their frustrations about meeting a "decent guy" but when I email them...of course I get ignored.

 

I guess they dont' get out of the house, just sit behind the computer selecting men or something. lol

 

I would not want a rejection email, as I'll see I have a reply and I'll think SWEET, she is interested!

 

I posted in the thread about women who claim no man wants them that there are two women I've seen on POF everytime I've activated my account on there the last few years. I do send them a message each time, I know I've improved and perhaps what they want has changed. Never have heard from them, but I wonder if they just keep their profiles for ego. If I had to guess, they haven't been in a relationship the last few years...I agree that one shouldn't settle, but if you've had little success, maybe you should try a date with someone who you may not have been interested in before, but you see some slight potential in.

 

Also some guys from reading women's profile will send them a message every day even if there is no reply, not even weeks apart.

[soccerrprp]

LOL! It would be so funny if it weren't tragic in some sense!

[KathyM]

Actually, the reason most men or women go back on the dating website is because they were in a relationship and it didn't work out, not because they have continued to be on there for long periods of time without results. Most relationships end eventually until the person finds their right match, so they repost their profile after their current dating relationship ends. Then there are also people who have very high standards so it takes longer to find who they are looking for, and they stay on the dating website until they find the right one.

[truth_seeker]

As I've said before on LS, many women are not inclined to send a rejection Email to someone because it often does not stop there, and the guy usually demands to know why she is not interested, or tries to talk her into seeing him, or outright insults her because he was rejected. That is why many women will not send the rejection Email, and instead prefer to put something in their profile so that men know not to keep Emailing if he has not gotten a response.

 

The one thing I liked about match was the EMAIL READ feature. At least I knew the person viewed the email I sent them. If they didn't respond, then she was a b-tch for not responding, and not worth my time. All it it takes is a simple: "Hi, thanks for the email but after viewing your profile, I don't feel we would be a good fit. Take care." I'm an adult. I would appreciate the response and respect her decision. I do though understand women not responding at all because if they do it would get the guy to keep bugging them with questions. Still, it sucks for me as all I would want is a simple yes or no.

 

If it says EMAIL NOT READ, then I would wonder if my email was buried under many others she received from other men. Only once did I send a follow up message to a woman, and she responded.

[truth_seeker]

Actually, the reason most men or women go back on the dating website is because they were in a relationship and it didn't work out, not because they have continued to be on there for long periods of time without results. Most relationships end eventually until the person finds their right match, so they repost their profile after their current dating relationship ends. Then there are also people who have very high standards so it takes longer to find who they are looking for, and they stay on the dating website until they find the right one.

 

About 3-4 years ago I looked at match. I saw a girl on there. Thought she was cute, but not interested enough to sign up to contact her. About a year and a half later, I look at match again. Same girl comes up in the results. Still not interested enough to pay to email her. Last year this time, I browse match again, and guess who is STILL THERE? Same girl.

 

Okay, so maybe nothing worked out for her? Maybe she didn't find the right one? Maybe, just maybe, she's got issues and that's why she has a profile on match for years?

[Casablanca]

Actually, the reason most men or women go back on the dating website is because they were in a relationship and it didn't work out, not because they have continued to be on there for long periods of time without results. Most relationships end eventually until the person finds their right match, so they repost their profile after their current dating relationship ends. Then there are also people who have very high standards so it takes longer to find who they are looking for, and they stay on the dating website until they find the right one.

That is true, but EVERYTIME I've gotten back on there, some of the same girls are on there....perhaps they had a relationship as long as mine and got back on at the same time, but I doubt it.

[KathyM]

About 3-4 years ago I looked at match. I saw a girl on there. Thought she was cute, but not interested enough to sign up to contact her. About a year and a half later, I look at match again. Same girl comes up in the results. Still not interested enough to pay to email her. Last year this time, I browse match again, and guess who is STILL THERE? Same girl.

 

Okay, so maybe nothing worked out for her? Maybe she didn't find the right one? Maybe, just maybe, she's got issues and that's why she has a profile on match for years?

If she has something going for her, such as being cute as you said, she most likely has been dating guys from OLD, but either never found the right one to want a relationship with, or she has taken her profile down at times when she has found someone she's interested in, and put it back up when the relationship ended.

[Casablanca]

If she has something going for her, such as being cute as you said, she most likely has been dating guys from OLD, but either never found the right one to want a relationship with, or she has taken her profile down at times when she has found someone she's interested in, and put it back up when the relationship ended.

But it was everytime, sure she may have taken it down for a short period of time, but if I was a betting man, she probably didn't have it up there long

[KathyM]

That is true, but EVERYTIME I've gotten back on there, some of the same girls are on there....perhaps they had a relationship as long as mine and got back on at the same time, but I doubt it.

If they are on there continuously with no breaks, they probably have very high standards and are holding out for who they perceive as the right one, and haven't met that guy yet.

[FitChick]

I usually say the usual "We are not a good match" but occasionally the dolts want to know WHY. So I say, "Sorry, you aren't my physical type." Few can argue with that.

[edgygirl]

Whenever I see that a guy really worked hard on writing me a personal email, I am tempted to at least answer saying I'm not interested. I regret each time I did it, as they want to know exactly why I'm not interested and try to convince me to meet and give them a chance. So I decided to stop responding, it's better for everyone involved.

[Casablanca]

Whenever I see that a guy really worked hard on writing me a personal email, I am tempted to at least answer saying I'm not interested. I regret each time I did it, as they want to know exactly why I'm not interested and try to convince me to meet and give them a chance. So I decided to stop responding, it's better for everyone involved.

That is for best, I wouldn't respond why, but I'd get that quick moment of a high of a response, but then realize it was a rejection response

[scratch]

Whenever I see that a guy really worked hard on writing me a personal email, I am tempted to at least answer saying I'm not interested. I regret each time I did it, as they want to know exactly why I'm not interested and try to convince me to meet and give them a chance. So I decided to stop responding, it's better for everyone involved.

 

I used to use the yahoo personals site, which no longer exists. It had a great feature where you could just choose a rejection reply from the drop down menu. That seemed to strike the right balance between sending feedback but not eliciting further responses.

 

Does that feature exist on any site anymore? If so, does it work, or do people argue anyway?

[Ruby Slippers]

Whenever I see that a guy really worked hard on writing me a personal email, I am tempted to at least answer saying I'm not interested. I regret each time I did it, as they want to know exactly why I'm not interested and try to convince me to meet and give them a chance. So I decided to stop responding, it's better for everyone involved.

Same here. When I first got on OLD, I would write back to every non-sexual message from a guy I wasn't interested in with a polite rejection. And pretty much EVERY one of those guys would write back, either pretending I hadn't said no, asking why, or trying to talk me out of it. So then I only responded to messages from guys I was interested in.